Do you think this is okay or invading her privacy?

[carlie3girls]

My 13 year old daughter has a facebook and has had one for a while now. Ever since she got it, I've had the password and sometimes go on to it and look through her messages, photos, and even friends to make sure they are all people she knows. We do have a good sense of trust between us and she is a responsible and well-prepared 13-year-old, but I feel that I still want to check up on her. I also go through her phone texts from time to time. I want you ladies' honest opinions of what you think this is, okay or invading of her privacy.

Thanks in advance!!

~Carlie <3

[scraphappy12]

I do all of the above.

[Manth]

My girls are 16 and 17 and I have had their Facebook passwords from the day they first got it at 13.  I don't OFTEN go check on them because I trust them but the fact is I could check at any time and they know it.  Same with their phones - I don't OFTEN check but I reserve the right to do so to keep them safe.  Teens often don't have the self-preservation to know when something is OK and when it crosses the line - that's when we parents have to step up to the plate.

[i43tinker]

I dont think you are exspecially with facebook there are alot of weirdos out there 

[lucky2Beeme]

I think what you are doing is fine. Mine were not allowed FB at 13.

[fammatthews4]

I think that what you are doing is fine.

[atlmom2]

You need to be checking facebook. Computers are not private. I told my girls I can see everything.

[fantasticfour]

I personally don't think that children have the right of privacy EXCEPT with it concerns their body.  If I am suspicious of something, I check.  Other than that, I don't.  Now of course if their phone is going off like crazy I might take it and tease them by reading the texts and responding myself.  Or I might log into their facebook to send me gifts for games, but that's it unless I am suspicious of something.

[joyfulmom30]

As a parent if my son had a facebook account or a cell phone I would do the same. And as the parent it is not invading her privacy, it's called be a responsible parent and knowing what your child is doing at all times.

[mom23heathens]

 There is no such thing as privacy in my house. My kids barged in on me in the shower, on the pot, eavesdropped on my phone conversations and made comments unsolicited, etc. Now if they expect to close a door, talk on the phone without me eavesdropping and looking at call logs, go online anysite and not give me a password, they have lost their minds. I have the password to their college dashboards. If they want privacy they can get a job and move out and pay for their own phone, internet and insurance.  have kids between 9-22. I still pay some of the bills for my kids not at home. I am privvy to all that i have to pay for.

[sunflowers12]

No, due to her age I think its fine... Better safe then sorry.. at least for now:)