My teenager daughter has sent a picture with bra and panties of herself to a guy she meet at the mall who lives in maryland,she keeps asking for a new phone because she says she changed,This Mistake happened 5 months ago but my question is. Should I Give My Teen A Phone Again and trust her she wont send a picture like that again?
Turn off the pic texting option or see if you can block her from out of state sending. Or get her a phone that can only call select numbers. I don't think I'd be giving her a full access phone right away. I'd start off with very little control in her hands. That man could have been a pedophile!
Going to tell you a quick story.
My parents took my phone away from me while in high school.. just for being a stubborn hard headed teen and being stupid, nothing too big, it was reasonable. You want to know what happened while my phone was taken from me and why I will NEVER take a phone from my daughter? (rhetorical question). I was attacked by a man. I was walking home from a pizza place with a friend and we spilt ways once we got to our midway home points. It was in the evening before sunset. I noticed a man started following me almost immediately after my friend and I split. I would have called the police, I would have called someone, anyone but I could not because i didn't have a phone. I was panicing and trying to figure out something to do... then he attacked. Luckily for me, my friend (and a few others) heard me screaming and instinctually called the police and started yelling "the police are on their way" repeatedly... the man got up and ran, police got there, we went home a few hours after being at the police station. When I finally got home and started talking to my parents what happened and how I felt, I received my phone back and it was never again taken from me during the day, if I was leaving the house. Thankfully for them and my relationship with my parents i am not the type of person to think "it's your fault this happened to me because you took my phone". My phone was taken for reasonable reasons and it isn't like my parents planned this.
Personally, from my own experience... I would give her phone back to her, turn the picture messaging off and if need be just take it from her at night when she is going to sleep, or during the day while at home. I don't think anyone should put their child in the position of not being able to call for help when he/she needs it if they can afford to do so. IF you are still against the phone, then start looking at portable, personal alarms. They attach one end to them and the other it attached to a LOUD speaker box like thing that sirens off REALLY LOUD when disconnected from the attachment. My ex boyfriend (boyfriend and the time) bought me one when i moved into my first apartment.. it was a shady place and the alarm worked real well. ...Really well.
So, I am sorry, I just realized how "quick" this story wasn't.
Can't your daughter get in legal trouble for sending out those kind of pictures?
They don't always make it a big deal but yes. A person under the age of the states legal consent age that sends a photo of his or herslef in a sexual manner to a person above the legal consent age (not sure how it works for under) can face charges for distributing child pornography. ...It's not too common that this happens though.
Quoting Mbpeaceful12:Can't your daughter get in legal trouble for sending out those kind of pictures?
If you feel she needs one for safety then get her a very basic one, do not allow picture texting, also try to get a plan where you can make it so only certain numbers can call her and she can call only certain numbers.
I would give her a phone with NO camera NO text. She can get a phone with those things when she has the money to buy it and pay for the plan it needs.
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- Keisha5532
on Jul. 31, 2012 at 7:03 PM