My son is on the verge of running away, I feel like i might just die.
Is there something that you can help him with or get him help and to a place where he will be safe but can get the help he might need
Tell him that, what you just wrote, how you feel now.
Has he told you this? Take a deep breath and consider your options. Perhaps another family member can intervene and act as a mediator?
Quoting bluegreen:Tell him that, what you just wrote, how you feel now.
COUNSELING! I have learned so much sitting in on counseling appointments with our dd. Sometimes they can't express to us what they can talk to a counselor about. Our daughter was packed and ready to go and we have been going to counseling for about 4 months or so. It is a slow process because whatever is going on can't be fixed in one session nor one day. You will also have to be very open with what your son has to say even though you may not like what he has to say! Good luck to you and I hope that you and your son can get to the bottom of it all. HUGS to you.
I agree too. Also, consider the PP about counseling too. Hugs.
What is going on that is making him want to run away? I know it is hard, but if he told you before he did it, he is crying out for help. He considers it his option of last resort but is giving you a chance to help make his situation (whatever it is) better. Take him out away from the house and have a sit down and talk with him and really listen to what he is saying. He wants his feelings validated not dismissed. If it is a problem at home, take him seriously and don't defend his "antagonist's" actions. If it is a problem at with friends, a girl, or school; listen and offer advice if asked for. I discovered with teen boys that asking "what do you want to do about that?" or "what do you think about that?" got me alot farther than offering advice.
Do you have family members who would take him in for a few weeks? Sometimes a little distance helps as long as he knows that you are just giving him space and doesn't think you are trying to get rid of him. Counseling would help, but you would have to talk him around until he thinks it is his idea. In my experience, teenage boys do things much better if they think it is their idea. Otherwise, you will make him go to counseling, but he will be resentful and won't talk.
I know your heart is breaking, and you are sick because your world has collapsed. Hang in there! Your son has opened a window for you to help by telling you his plans. That is a positive sign, even if it doesn't feel like it. Keep us posted and know you are in our thoughts and prayers.
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