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Would you go snooping through your teenagers room

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Yes first of I pay Rent their not that child.Second in my head a child has not rights in my house until they pay taxes and hopefully they will be ready to move out by then. Come on parent are you crazy you should know about everything that comes and goes in your house.

by on Aug. 10, 2012 at 10:10 AM
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boysmom5
by on Aug. 12, 2012 at 9:46 AM
If I felt there was a reason to, yes I would.
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Susanmomof
by on Aug. 12, 2012 at 9:50 AM

 I'm with you on this , your over all responsible for them when they are living under your roof so why would you not want to know what they may be hiding in their rooms?

Quoting sockslady:

Yes first of I pay Rent their not that child.Second in my head a child has not rights in my house until they pay taxes and hopefully they will be ready to move out by then. Come on parent are you crazy you should know about everything that comes and goes in your house.

 

gr8d8n3mom
by on Aug. 12, 2012 at 10:22 AM

If need be, yep, I will go into my 20 yr olds room and look,and snoop! I'm her mother first, friend second. Doesn't matter what kind of relationship u have with ur kids, all kids fib now and again.

when my DD's were  younger and told me they were going to "hang out" at a certain place, they also knew, I may just drive by or go in to make sure they were there.

We also have an agreement, no matter where u are, no matter what time of the day or night, no matter what the circumstances, if you need me, call me. After they get a good sleep in, we will discuss what happened. Each daughter used that 1 time, and one DD was 19, the other was 20 and neither were drunk, they got abandoned by "friends".

Sstrong1310
by on Aug. 12, 2012 at 7:54 PM
My Son and I are close but he knows if I ever have a reason .... I will search whatever is in my home . I pay the bills and he is a child , as long as lives with me , he will follow the rules and be respectful . He has passwords on his phone and computer but gives them to me as needed.


Quoting EmpoweredTeens:

If you develop a close relationship with your teen where they are honest with you, the need to find out what they are doing won't be there. I think we teach our teens by example. if you are saying they have no rights, how will they learn to have rights themselves and honor other peoples rights. I don't think having rights has anything to do with paying taxes or rent. I think everyone deserves to have rights. I think that if you are at the point of dishonesty in your relationship with your teen, this is the issue that needs to be examined.


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DropZoneMom
by on Aug. 12, 2012 at 9:48 PM

Mine know I have the right to search their rooms anytime I deem it necessary (i.e. if I feel I have a reason to).   They're not entitled to absolute privacy.   I also have access to their cell phones & Facebook accounts -- which I do look at on a regular basis.  On the very few occasions I've found something troubling, it's been turned into a teaching moment.   They're not adults -- they're CHILDREN.   And children often don't understand the consequences of their actions.  

PinkButterfly66
by on Aug. 12, 2012 at 9:49 PM

Yes, if I had reason to believe she was engaging in risky or dangerous behavior.

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