Hey Ladies, this is my first post and it's going to be a doosie... Here's the whole story:
My ex husband and I have been divorced for 8 years this month, together we have a 13 year old daughter. In our divorce agreement we have joint custody which states the following for visitation: School months she is with me, she gets visits with her father summer months, weekends and holiday. I remarried this past September, 2011. When my then Fiance' started spending more time at my house last May, then moved in with me the end of July, my ex stopped paying child support. So after him not paying May-July, I finally called him and asked him what was going on and he states "let your new man support you". Ok so I had to petition the courts and get a court date Sept.22 to have a show cause hearing as to him being in contempt of our court order. We go to court, I win he has to write me out a check for 5 months of owed child support. Present day: He had our daughter all summer, so I ask my daughter August 1st if she would come home and spend the next 3 weeks with me before school start because I was extremely lonesome for her. She comes home on the 5th, on the 7th she asks if she can go with her Dad to his place of work to play basketball, me being me I say yes, but she has to be back home by 5pm.. He's kept her every since. I'm texting her and sending her messages on Face book, with no responds. August 8th I get served with papers saying he's taking me to court for full custody. August 16th I receive papers in the mail saying that's he's petitioned the court for a Protective Order so he can keep our daughter until we go to court (which can take months), BUT the judge denied him the protection order. So my daughter is due to be back to my house by this weekend. So now I feel like I have to walk on egg shells around her because if the Judge asks her to chose where she wants to live she could chose her father. I guess I failed to mention the fact that my ex is 65 years old, I'm 46.. He's ready for retirement. I feel she needs to be raised by her Mother. I have attained a lawyer to represent me which is costing me money I don't have.. But I can not sit by and not fight my my daughter. Any thoughts or comments. The part that bothers me is that she's not 100% innocent as she must of complained to her Father that she didn't want to come home until school starts other wise I've let him take her whenever he has wanted. So I some what have hard feeling towards my daughter, I don't feel right saying this but she is playing her Father. He lets her stay up all night and she has a lot of freedom with him, when at my house she doesn't have that.
Comments and thoughts will be appreciated.