These last few days we have been out of town with my mother-in-law at her home. My father in law, her husband of nearly 50 years passed away 2 months ago and its been really hard on her. I had called DDs school on the first day that you could pick up your back to school packet (our schools no longer mail them you must pick them up) since we were out of town and told them. The secratary I spoke to told me not to worry, that they would simply put DDs name on the mail packet list.
Yesterday my phone went off and it was the school. I answered it and the women asked for DD, not for her parents or anything just DD. I asked who was calling, she told me she was the high school. I told her DD was at the movies and asked if I could help. She told me she would call back and hung up.
She called 3 more times just like this, finally she called after I picked DD up, I told the women I didnt want her speaking to DD till she told me what it was about. She basically told me she just had to speak to DD about "personal" school stuff.... ummmm.... my daughter is 16, not an adult in our state. She is also my daughter thru full guardianship in lieu of adoption due to mental defect, this isnt a guardianship that just expires when she turns 18. Anyhow, I gave the phone to DD but could hear the whole thing. I could tell DD didnt like the women calling, and normally I wouldnt listen but I was worried. The women was very rude to DD and told her how she was very irresponsible for not picking up her packet. My daughter told the secratary she had gone to help her grandmother and the women told her that with a whole summer she couldve found a better time then demanded she come pick up her packet. DD began crying, I took the phone and told the women I would be in today to pick up the packet. I told her I also wanted to speak to one of the assistent principals (because I know the Principal is on vacation in Uragugay till Thurs. my brother lives 2 houses down from him LOL). Anyhow, Im just very put off by this call, Ive never had a call where the school didnt request to speak to the parent. I asked one of my friends who is a teacher and she told me that she'd never heard of it either. Im trying to not read to much into the call or anything but still its very annoying that this women upset my daughter like that.
So it appears that I was not the only upset parent. Infact for did this to a couple incoming freshman as well, so 13/14 year olds.I was told that school policy actually requires the parent to be told. Infact state law still requires for a parent to sign off on the ability of an 18 year old to be able to check themselves out of school on a whim. I explained we have spent a large portion of the summer out of town with my mother in law, and they told me they were sorry it was a mistake that our name didnt end up on the mail list. Her defense almost sounded like she feels its the childs responsiblility to get there packet and schedule. Interesting part on that though, I have to sign the 6 documents inside of the packet and send a copy of our insurence card. So its not like even if she got the packet she could get her schedule without my knowing. LOL. Just a very upsetting thing, They told me they couldnt tell me what her punishment would be due to privacy, however I feel confident knowing enough teachers I'll learn something once school starts.