These last few days we have been out of town with my mother-in-law at her home. My father in law, her husband of nearly 50 years passed away 2 months ago and its been really hard on her. I had called DDs school on the first day that you could pick up your back to school packet (our schools no longer mail them you must pick them up) since we were out of town and told them. The secratary I spoke to told me not to worry, that they would simply put DDs name on the mail packet list.
Yesterday my phone went off and it was the school. I answered it and the women asked for DD, not for her parents or anything just DD. I asked who was calling, she told me she was the high school. I told her DD was at the movies and asked if I could help. She told me she would call back and hung up.
She called 3 more times just like this, finally she called after I picked DD up, I told the women I didnt want her speaking to DD till she told me what it was about. She basically told me she just had to speak to DD about "personal" school stuff.... ummmm.... my daughter is 16, not an adult in our state. She is also my daughter thru full guardianship in lieu of adoption due to mental defect, this isnt a guardianship that just expires when she turns 18. Anyhow, I gave the phone to DD but could hear the whole thing. I could tell DD didnt like the women calling, and normally I wouldnt listen but I was worried. The women was very rude to DD and told her how she was very irresponsible for not picking up her packet. My daughter told the secratary she had gone to help her grandmother and the women told her that with a whole summer she couldve found a better time then demanded she come pick up her packet. DD began crying, I took the phone and told the women I would be in today to pick up the packet. I told her I also wanted to speak to one of the assistent principals (because I know the Principal is on vacation in Uragugay till Thurs. my brother lives 2 houses down from him LOL). Anyhow, Im just very put off by this call, Ive never had a call where the school didnt request to speak to the parent. I asked one of my friends who is a teacher and she told me that she'd never heard of it either. Im trying to not read to much into the call or anything but still its very annoying that this women upset my daughter like that.
So it appears that I was not the only upset parent. Infact for did this to a couple incoming freshman as well, so 13/14 year olds.I was told that school policy actually requires the parent to be told. Infact state law still requires for a parent to sign off on the ability of an 18 year old to be able to check themselves out of school on a whim. I explained we have spent a large portion of the summer out of town with my mother in law, and they told me they were sorry it was a mistake that our name didnt end up on the mail list. Her defense almost sounded like she feels its the childs responsiblility to get there packet and schedule. Interesting part on that though, I have to sign the 6 documents inside of the packet and send a copy of our insurence card. So its not like even if she got the packet she could get her schedule without my knowing. LOL. Just a very upsetting thing, They told me they couldnt tell me what her punishment would be due to privacy, however I feel confident knowing enough teachers I'll learn something once school starts.
It sounds like you are making a major issue over this. Just handle it. Let your daughter know the woman was out of line and it is now handled. There are rude people in the world, you know! LOL. Don't make a mountain over a mole-hill. Pretty simple stuff. Next time someone won't talk to you directly, insist upon it or ask to talk with someone else. Handle it before it goes to your minor-age child. Take some control! You don't have to let rude people run over you or your daughter.
Any adult calling to speak to my child/pre teen Will speak to me first otherwise, the conversation wont happen.
And if shes rude to me, guess who is abt to get their feelings hurt.
Who does she think she is?!
Report the incident and the person.
Quoting fantasticfour:I have never heard of it either and I would not have given my daughter the phone. Until she graduates high school, her education is my responsibility. I will definitely be speaking to in charge and the school board.
These schools have forgot who the parents are, they are there to teach them not decide what they feel is up to the child. Heck to much responsibilities are being put on our children how much more do they think the children can take...I mean 18 is the law to vote and sign their own life away so why are these kids being trie as an adult.
Well, at least you got some sort of apology. Thats something. How is your daughter? Is she okay now?
Quoting Playitagain:So it appears that I was not the only upset parent. Infact for did this to a couple incoming freshman as well, so 13/14 year olds.I was told that school policy actually requires the parent to be told. Infact state law still requires for a parent to sign off on the ability of an 18 year old to be able to check themselves out of school on a whim. I explained we have spent a large portion of the summer out of town with my mother in law, and they told me they were sorry it was a mistake that our name didnt end up on the mail list. Her defense almost sounded like she feels its the childs responsiblility to get there packet and schedule. Interesting part on that though, I have to sign the 6 documents inside of the packet and send a copy of our insurence card. So its not like even if she got the packet she could get her schedule without my knowing. LOL. Just a very upsetting thing, They told me they couldnt tell me what her punishment would be due to privacy, however I feel confident knowing enough teachers I'll learn something once school starts.
This, and I was wondering the same.
Quoting kirbymom:Well, at least you got some sort of apology. Thats something. How is your daughter? Is she okay now?
Quoting Playitagain:So it appears that I was not the only upset parent. Infact for did this to a couple incoming freshman as well, so 13/14 year olds.I was told that school policy actually requires the parent to be told. Infact state law still requires for a parent to sign off on the ability of an 18 year old to be able to check themselves out of school on a whim. I explained we have spent a large portion of the summer out of town with my mother in law, and they told me they were sorry it was a mistake that our name didnt end up on the mail list. Her defense almost sounded like she feels its the childs responsiblility to get there packet and schedule. Interesting part on that though, I have to sign the 6 documents inside of the packet and send a copy of our insurence card. So its not like even if she got the packet she could get her schedule without my knowing. LOL. Just a very upsetting thing, They told me they couldnt tell me what her punishment would be due to privacy, however I feel confident knowing enough teachers I'll learn something once school starts.
Oops sorry mama tyfry lol I felt u were screaming at me lol I should of clarified, b/c I didn't mean it in that context b/c her dd is 16 so ur right, but I guess I was thinking more about mine b/c she is 18 lol
Quoting tyfry7496:
No it's not time to let go. The PARENT or guardian is still RESPONSIBLE for their MINOR child. The child cannot sign ANY of the papers for school. This staff member was wrong and unprofessional.
I would be at the school confronting that staff member and I'd be filing a written complaint.
Quoting jinxmom:
They want the high schoolers to take responsibility for themselves. That used to tick me off too but I do understand their point. I guess its time to let go [sigh]
Advice on my defiant teen daughter please!
- Playitagain
on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:31 AM