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Was does she lie about ME and MY side of the family...ON A SCHOOL ASSIGNMENT!

Posted by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:11 PM
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And that's just the latest issue! Let me give you all a little background as to what is going on around here lately...it all started last week.

I had a very unexpected visit from CPS last Wednesday and got some very disturbing news. My DD told someone (at that time I did't know who) that my husband (not her dad) 1) pinched her butt in 7th grade 2) touched her breast and 3) twice made her pull down her pants and panties, spanked her bare butt, and made her say thank you. This would be alarming to anyone! Of course I asked her about it when she came home from band camp for the day!

  The next day CPS and a police officer came to interview her and her story changed a little. The spanking thing changed from twice to once, the statement went from having to thank him to having to thank him and ask for more.At that point I couldn't help but think she is making this up (she has done this twice before, once to her dad and once to me)

Now to today. She had her first day of school, she was very late for saying she slept through her alarm (I was working one of the very few days I work). She got an assignment to write a biography about herself by answering some predetermined questions. Well, while she was in the shower I went to check to see what she had done so far (not much). She wrote how my entire family is crazy, how I put on a front of being nice and then snap at random people with no notice, how I am crazy, how her stepdad is creapy. What she deleted it also concerning. She claimed that my 5 year old nephews torture my dog (they are terrified of him and we have to keep them separate from Max) and how they are holy terrors and throw things at people. They are 5! She then goes on to put down my neice who is 12 and my sister. She had NOTHING nice to say about the people who support her the most!

 Her dad and his ex-fiance had promised her voice lessons, they didn't. A year later I did! Her dad gets upset anytime I take her to see a doctor of any kind (even to get her ADD treated as it was affecting her schooling and sleep), I take her and she fells better, gets treated for health issues that he would just sweep under the rug! I have always encouraged her to do her best at things, her dad always tell her what she is doing wrong. 

Ok, this has gotten super long so I will spare you the rest of the tiny details. I am way over my head with all of this and I don't know what to do! I just told  her I knew what she had written and she is now grounded from life! She is to call and text no one other than her dad, stepmom, and I (she can't contact her stepdad due to her allegations against him), she will only be allowed to use her laptop for homework, and she is to come home straight from school/band practice. If it doesn't relate to somethign mandatory for school or family she will have to miss out. Her dad says I am being way to harsh, I refuse to let this go unpunished! Am I being to mean with all these huge lies that could cost me, well, quite frankly, HER!

  


by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:11 PM
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Tisha1115
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:12 PM

Oh, and her Psychiatrist is concerned as well...especially after having a private conversation with her.

tyfry7496
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:16 PM
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She'd be quitting band and she would be escorted to school and back. ALL work would be handwritten and checked by me and I would turn it in to the teacher, making copies beforehand. She would be going to counseling more. She'd have no door on her room, no phone, no privacy whatsoever. She would be apologizing to CPS and the police and school. I would be much more harsh than you are and what your ex thinks.
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Tisha1115
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:22 PM

Thank you! The only reason she has her door is because she had CPS called in to our lives. Her door is in the process of being refinished and is right now "naked" (bare wood).

graybealgirl
by Member on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:23 PM



Quoting tyfry7496:

She'd be quitting band and she would be escorted to school and back. ALL work would be handwritten and checked by me and I would turn it in to the teacher, making copies beforehand. She would be going to counseling more. She'd have no door on her room, no phone, no privacy whatsoever. She would be apologizing to CPS and the police and school. I would be much more harsh than you are and what your ex thinks.

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bizzeemom2717
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:32 PM
Well, if she is already under the care of a psychiatrist, then it sounds like she has some mental health issues. I would consult with the psych on a good parenting plan for all of you. Is she not living in your house now because of CPS involvement? So sorry hang in there and welcome to the group. Hugs....

Quoting Tisha1115:

Oh, and her Psychiatrist is concerned as well...especially after having a private conversation with her.

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AmericanChild82
by Member on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:44 PM

I'd definitely be talking to a psychologist about her behavior and her attitude. I am so sorry she's being such a handful. How old is your dd?

Tisha1115
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:50 PM

She is only seeing the psychiatrist for her ADD...She is in my home at the moment I am just not allowed to leave her alone with DH. This is all new behavior and her dad is not backing me up at this point. 

Quoting bizzeemom2717:

Well, if she is already under the care of a psychiatrist, then it sounds like she has some mental health issues. I would consult with the psych on a good parenting plan for all of you. Is she not living in your house now because of CPS involvement? So sorry hang in there and welcome to the group. Hugs....

Quoting Tisha1115:

Oh, and her Psychiatrist is concerned as well...especially after having a private conversation with her.


Tisha1115
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:54 PM

 She is 14...barely. Her psych is concerned and has added an antidepressant and I am waiting in a call to set up an appointment with a counsellor. Non of this came about until her dad left on his unannounced honeymoon.He just got remarried the 11th and left the following Monday...he didn't let me or my DD know.

Quoting AmericanChild82:

I'd definitely be talking to a psychologist about her behavior and her attitude. I am so sorry she's being such a handful. How old is your dd?


AmericanChild82
by Member on Aug. 22, 2012 at 12:53 AM
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Sounds like she has some pent up frustrations and isn't really sure how to go about voicing herself. Not only is she dealing with the teenager side of life but that she may be feeling left out by her father. That can cause a lot of anxiety in a kiddo her age. I think at this point any attention she gets from anyone whether it be good or bad is what she's after and I know you're about ready to pull your hair out. I hope that her psych can lead you in a direction so she gets the help she needs. Hugs momma!

Quoting Tisha1115:

 She is 14...barely. Her psych is concerned and has added an antidepressant and I am waiting in a call to set up an appointment with a counsellor. Non of this came about until her dad left on his unannounced honeymoon.He just got remarried the 11th and left the following Monday...he didn't let me or my DD know.

Quoting AmericanChild82:

I'd definitely be talking to a psychologist about her behavior and her attitude. I am so sorry she's being such a handful. How old is your dd?



Gmgej
by Member on Aug. 22, 2012 at 6:01 AM

I don't know what to say other then I am so sorry you must be heartbroken.

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