My son's friend: D is a great kid but he has a few issues. He's ADHD (which I am too) and his parents use that as an excuse for everything from his behavior to grades. He's a sweet young man, is 17, a junior in high school with ambitions to join the service.
His parents have mentioned a few times already that I should have him move in with me. It's always a chuckle after wards, kind of nervous like.
My husband and I have discusss it and think we might offer to take him in for the school year. Due to the fact that he NEVER needs his medication here because of the type of house I run (due to my adhd) and that we could provide more financially and more support with school and such, we think it might be a good idea.
NO we are not asking to adopt him, gain guardianship over him, remove the parental rights, alienate the parents/relatives, etc. They live about 10 minutes away. Perhaps stay here like a boarding school while in school. Visits whenever either like, go home on weekends, holidays, etc., constant communication with parents.
Does this sound like something a person is capable of doing? I adore this young man. My son and him help each other out quite a bit when it comes to mentality. My son is very advance in mentality when it comes to the acedemics while D understands and appreciates hard work. They couldn't be more opposite and yet they compliment each other so well. I think it would do both of them some good.
If I have missed something, let me know.
Wow if that wasn't a cluster **** I don't know what is! D called his mom tonight, without me knowing ahead of time, and had a nice little discussion about the whole thing to her. Blind sided her so to speak. Apparently a few kids in their neighborhood have been in some trouble, parents are not so great so to speak and she took this as him wanting to become emancipated! I walked upstairs to hear her on the speaker phone screaming at him. I called her after he talked to me about what was going on to find out what was said. Apparently there is more motivation than doing better in school. Apparently him and his father butt heads alot. Ok... no abuse there so tough luck in my opinion. His biggest problem is where they live. They live in a trailer park, nothing wrong with that, but it's a trashy one and he's desperate to get away from it. Now I look like someone who is telling this woman she can't raise a kid!!!! I hadn't even talked to her about it and she's the one who always brought it up! He brought it up this weekend, we mentioned something along the lines of "try living here" or something like that and he had gotten serious about it. Like I told his mom, and I told her the TRUTH, this is how the conversation started and although I have no problem with it, he took it and ran.
I was going to sit down with her and explain the situation in a way that did NOT seem like I was competeing with her! D loves his family but is desperate for stability and wants a good shot at life, which is why he is considering getting a ged at 18 and joining the military. Problem is, he's not educated enough for a ged yet and I doubt he will be at the end of the year without serious tutoring. Poor woman is upset, and I discussed with him where he went wrong.