Today things are a little better as my mom is getting help with her own emotional health and takes yoga and meditates to supplement her bi-weekly sessions with a counselor. My sister also sees a counselor bi-weekly and is prescribed to both anti- depressants and medicine for ADHD. But I don't believe she should even be on drugs, but my m insists that anything the doctors prescribe will be helpful. Summer was great as my mom and sister went to Dominican Republic where our family is from to get away from things and have the support from friends and family there. I missed them but it seemed as though their relationship and respective emotional healths improved.
Unfortunately since they've been back and since the school year has started things are spiraling out of control once more. My sister received an alcohol citation for drinking at a teen party, she's been caught sneaking out of the house at night, and we've already gotten calls from the vice principal about her skipping class. And then last night I got a call from my distraught mother saying my sister was talking about killing herself. I dropped my plans as I often do these days to rush home. My sister seemed down but we cuddled up with some stuffed animals, got some ice cream, and popped in a movie and soon enough she was asleep.
I am very anxious and frustrated with this situation. My mother looks to me to talk to my sister and even discipline her as their relationship is really bad. It's not that she's a bad mom, I just think she is tired. She had my sister when she was 42 years old and already had 2 older kids ( I was already 14 when my sister was born). My brother and I turned out fine, but my sister is such a handful. And it doesn't help that teachers and administrators call the house asking us to discipline her when we don't know what else to do. My sister's counselor doesn't seem that helpful as my siter refuses to talk to her half the time she goes there. And my dad is preoccupied with finding income that he is largely absent from these problems.
What else can we do? Who can we turn to for help? I share my own coping mechanisms with my sister (artistic pursuits, throwing myself into school or my job) but she doesnt seem interested in anything I tell her. I'm terribly afraid someone in my family is going to break.
Your advice or suggestions are deeply appreciated.