I think of myself as being frugal, thrifty. I don't think cheap but maybe others would. lol We r having such trouble with our dd fitting in. We have found out that the small school we have her in (her 8th grade class has abt 130 in it) is mainly very wealthy families. It wasn't as apparent in the lower grades but now the past couple years, we really are seeing it. You would think that just because the parents are wealthy it wouldn't hit the kids but now in older years think they are picking up that they live in uppercrust & are really snobby abt it. We had problems with her wanting to hang with a couple real poor kids (it took us a while to find out it wasn't that they were poor) their parents were into drugs, tatoos, on & on. To make a long story short there was a lot of inappropriate stuff going on with boys (bad sexting, bad fb posts, etc). We had always thought just becuz the parents are seedy doesn't mean we should take it out on the kids, but then the kids started showing it. She is having such a hard time as she dresses in t-shirts & sports shorts, not shorty shorts & tight tops, etc which is good but the girls that she's trying to be around want to fix her up but she thinks she has to have namebrand clothes & we have bought her namebrand shoes for soccer & basketball & her one pair for school. I hate all this 'you are nothing if you don't have top of the line clothes' so we haven't bought her but just a few sportswear name brand and not even HIGH NAME BRANDS. We don't want her to be ostracised either. A girl wants to take her shopping for a shirt for the dance on Thursday (she wants $70) & then 2 other girls over to her house to do their hair, etc before the dance. It used to be when kids (us too when I was a kid) would say 'everyone is doing it/has it. Well, nowadays it IS true. How do you live in this world WHEN YOU ARE IN THE MINORITY??? I think we should just keep limits, but that is even hard. We don't live in a fancy house (under 250,000 but it's payed off), but I just don't want to give into this 'I'm nothing if I don't have what the others have, name brand, etc) not for me or my husband but our daughter. How does a person get through it???