My 17 yr old boy has ADD, anxiety & drug issues. His Gf recently broke up with him ( they dated for a whole 2 months, whoppee) and now he "can't cope" wants to focus on himself and go back inaptient - that would be 3x this year. Here's the catch: he has a psychiatrist, counselor/therapist, medication and big time family support. He's not using his tools such as group therapy, journaling, art therapy, he just wants to dwell on poor poor him and how his social life isn't what he wants. My feeling: too damn bad. He wants to go back to the hospital now because - he admits- its too late in 1st semester to make up the work he's blown off and he should go now so he's ready for 2nd semester. It's too convienent. He isn't compliant with his meds becuase he doesn't like how they make him feel - he is mellow and concentrates, hmmm is that really a bad thing? The psychiatrist is in agreement with me, he needs to stick to his medication schedule and a set routine & schedule. The hospital is for safety, if he was acute and/or suicidal. I called the hospital intake, made my son talk to them & they talked to me. Of course he can be evaluated 24/7 but he has what he needs and doesn't seem to be in crisis.
I feel he needs to do what he's supposed to do and learn to face himself. He cannot escape or run away, he has to suck it up and deal. Part of me feels bitchy, but I am at peace showing him tough love.