dh and i have been battling with his dd over school and grades since, well forever...the standing rule in our home is this, you must at least hold a C average in order to be able to do anything over the weekend....(the C average is dh's idea, not mine...sd16 (nearly 17) is very smart I think she should and can do A/B work..but that's another story)
dh is working today, actually he was called out to work...and sd looks at me and asks "so this gives us all day to do whatever we want, what ___ do you want to do today?", hinting that she wanted to go to the mall or the movies...I told her, well looking at your grades today and with 12 days left of the quarter, i think you should be hitting the books, reading the chapter(s) that you're working on in class , take notes, answer the questions in the back of the chapter(s) and know what's going on...so you can get your grades up to an acceptable level, and you can do things on the weekend.."..
now heres the issue, SHE knows what is expected of her, she wrote an action plan of what she needs to do in order to maintain a C average,(and its hanging on our refridgerator) so she can go and do whatever she wishes to do...This is the 3rd weekend in a row that she has brought her books home, and they sit on her desk till Monday morning...she will sit on her butt and watch tv, talk on the phone, skype, facebook, xbox etc all weekend, but wont and can't be bothered to open a flipping book and learn something, to get ahead, to achieve a C average....(the technology thing is a HUGE issue with me, but dh wont take them...his reasoning is if she is satisfied with not doing anything other than talking on technology, then it's her issue, not mine)....so there she sits on the couch across from me, with her phone and ipod texting lord knows who and facebooking..and there she will sit/lounge all weekend long doing the exact same thing.....it's horribly frustrating...
ahhhh vent over,