When I was in High School in the 70s, dates consisted of a meal and an entertainment. The girls wore dresses or skirts and the boys wore a tie. The boy came to the door and picked the girl up. The boys paid and the girls had some money in case of an emergency.
What is dating like today with nice conscientious boys? My daughter will soon be 15. She has a "date" to homecoming. They each paid for their own tickets and will meet at the dance. How is this different than just meeting up with friends? What should I expect? DH says that it is not a date unless the boy pays.


I tell my kid, unless otherwise specified the person who mades the "date" pays (even if they are just friends) however, they should bring enough money to cover it should there be a problem. Boys are to pick my daughter's up at the door. I have informed my girls if they honk in the driveway they better be dropping something off because they are not picking anything up! My son was told the same way. Pick her up at the door. Be polite, pay for the meal/ticket/etc.
As far as going dutch, it happens. In fact, I dated as a teen and mostly I paid because the boyfriend was broke and I wanted to go out.

That's how I remember it. Definitely no honking in the driveway! DD is almost 15 and the boy just turned 15. I would prefer that she be picked up but I guess that is up to his parents. I moved to the Appalachian Mtns 3 months ago and I understand if no one wants to drive uphill through all the switchbacks to get to our house. Thankyou. You've eased my mind a bit. I doesn't sound that much different than when I was in Highschool.
Quoting fantasticfour:I tell my kid, unless otherwise specified the person who mades the "date" pays (even if they are just friends) however, they should bring enough money to cover it should there be a problem. Boys are to pick my daughter's up at the door. I have informed my girls if they honk in the driveway they better be dropping something off because they are not picking anything up! My son was told the same way. Pick her up at the door. Be polite, pay for the meal/ticket/etc.
As far as going dutch, it happens. In fact, I dated as a teen and mostly I paid because the boyfriend was broke and I wanted to go out.



Yes! That's the way we did it. I don't feel so old any more.
Quoting Jessiejack:
I think it depends on how they are raised. My DD has a boyfriend now. He always pays for the date, holds the door for her and even pulls out her chair. He was raised to do this and his mother would not allow it any other way. This year they go to different schools. I believe that when it comes to school dances it a little different. If she invites him to her homecoming dance she needs to buy the tickets for them both. And same if it's his invite to his school.

- jazzgirl205
on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:10 PM