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How do teens date nowadays?

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When I was in High School in the 70s, dates consisted of a meal and an entertainment.  The girls wore dresses or skirts and the boys wore a tie.  The boy came to the door and picked the girl up. The boys paid and the girls had some money in case of an emergency.

What is dating like today with nice conscientious boys?  My daughter will soon be 15.  She has a "date" to homecoming.  They each paid for their own tickets and will meet at the dance.  How is this different than just meeting up with friends?  What should I expect?  DH says that it is not a date unless the boy pays.

by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:10 PM
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sahlady
by Gold Member on Oct. 7, 2012 at 11:00 AM

my daughter (17) recently had a couple dates, in the past it was more meeting up some where with a group of friends.:  

one was a day time hike, he picked her up at the house,they drove to the trail head, and hiked for about 2 hours.  Then she came home

One was out for ice-cream... she just wore shorts and a cute top.  He picked her up took her for the ice-cream, he paid.

There was one that was a picnic... she asked if he wanted her to make it if he found the spot and drove (this was before she had her licence).

So the dates have been a bit more casual than what you described.

But once he asked her to be his girl friend he did step it up... but he told her 'we are going someplace nice to night' so she knew to wear a dresss.



As for the proms and formal dances.... the tickets are SO expensive now-a-days that I think they each pay their own way.  I think the last dance my daughter went to was $75/ticket.

sahlady
by Gold Member on Oct. 7, 2012 at 11:02 AM

I agree.

Quoting fantasticfour:

I tell my kid, unless otherwise specified the person who mades the "date" pays (even if they are just friends) however, they should bring enough money to cover it should there be a problem.  Boys are to pick my daughter's up at the door. 



As far as going dutch, it happens.  In fact, I dated as a teen and mostly I paid because the boyfriend was broke and I wanted to go out.

as for the bottom part... I agree at this age.  I have told her though to set her standards high when dating as a young adult.  If he cant afford to date you there is no way in hell he can afford to marry you.

boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:26 PM

I have sons.    They would never pull up and honk!   They pick the girl up at her door and walk her to her door at the end of the night.   They usually pay when going out.   There have been times that their g/f picked up the tab, though.

I know that when my youngest son meets up with girls, for group activities.....he still escorts them home.




mumsy2three
by Shauna on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:45 PM

Dutch is pretty standard around here.

I don't know what rules others have for their kids but when my dd started dating we had to meet the boy prior to them going out. There is no waiting in the drive way for her to come out. We will have the same rule in place for our boys when they get to dating age.

fammatthews4
by Trisha on Oct. 7, 2012 at 1:05 PM

WOW this makes me so happy that our prom tickets for both senior and junior prom are included in their junior dues which are only $30.  Homecoming tickets are only $15

Quoting sahlady:

my daughter (17) recently had a couple dates, in the past it was more meeting up some where with a group of friends.:  

one was a day time hike, he picked her up at the house,they drove to the trail head, and hiked for about 2 hours.  Then she came home

One was out for ice-cream... she just wore shorts and a cute top.  He picked her up took her for the ice-cream, he paid.

There was one that was a picnic... she asked if he wanted her to make it if he found the spot and drove (this was before she had her licence).

So the dates have been a bit more casual than what you described.

But once he asked her to be his girl friend he did step it up... but he told her 'we are going someplace nice to night' so she knew to wear a dresss.



As for the proms and formal dances.... the tickets are SO expensive now-a-days that I think they each pay their own way.  I think the last dance my daughter went to was $75/ticket.


jazzgirl205
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 3:19 PM

DD homecoming tickets were $10 ea.  I don't think high school tickets should be as expensive as Sahlady's. Heck,  when my ladies' organization back on the coast had a formal white tie ball, we had to pay $100/pair for tickets for our guests (actually selling or being reimbursed for tickets were grounds for expulsion) and that included as many cocktails as one could drink.  

Dh met the boy and said he seems nice.

jazzgirl205
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 3:23 PM

BTW,  Thanks ladies.  I've read in places how unlike dating is today compared to when I was dating.  20 yrs ago, when DH and I would eat out at a modest restaurant, there would be 1 or 2 tables with teens dating.  I don't see that  anymore.  Ya'll have allayed my fears.

bizzeemom2717
by Jen on Oct. 7, 2012 at 3:34 PM
I just read a study posted by a fellow in my MSW course that concludes the same or nearly the same amount of underage sex goes on in "group" dates as in one on one dates. Gives many parents a false sense of security. Sounds like you have good communication with your kids and that seems to truly be key.


Quoting ame4c:

My kids dont "date" unchapperoned, period. Until 16 there has to be an adult present at all times and it must be a public function, such as a school dance or football game. At 16, they are to group date. Must be with others and not alone. These are technics I intend for them to take into their adult dating. I've sat my kids down and explained why this is too and allowed their input and questions. I feel it is important for these kids to know they will be dealing with feelings and hormones that most adults cant handle well. This is why group dating is important. If you dont put your self in a tempting situation, you will less likely do something you will regret later. Now that is not to say it still could not happen, but I think teaching our kids how to lessen the chance and take the pressure off is key.
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sahlady
by Gold Member on Oct. 7, 2012 at 4:18 PM

never heard of class dues.

Quoting fammatthews4:

WOW this makes me so happy that our prom tickets for both senior and junior prom are included in their junior dues which are only $30.  Homecoming tickets are only $15

sahlady
by Gold Member on Oct. 7, 2012 at 4:20 PM

perhaps the venues are different.

we dont have a homecoming (no football team) only winter formal and prom.  the price covers venue (usually a nice down town hotel ball room), dinner, drinks, dj, and security (not really bouncers but paid staff to monitor it all).

Quoting jazzgirl205:

DD homecoming tickets were $10 ea.  I don't think high school tickets should be as expensive as Sahlady's. Heck,  when my ladies' organization back on the coast had a formal white tie ball, we had to pay $100/pair for tickets for our guests (actually selling or being reimbursed for tickets were grounds for expulsion) and that included as many cocktails as one could drink.  

Dh met the boy and said he seems nice.


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