My daughter will be 16 in a few months. I remarried last year and understand she's had to adjust to divorce and remarriage. I worry, get angry, etc. over her behavior towards me, her step father and step grandmother. His mom is so happy we are in his life and she is good and kind to us. My daughter treats her like a stranger she doesn't want to deal with. This lady is 80 and sweetest of the sweet. She will try to talk to my daughter and just gets one word answers, etc. She took the two of us out to eat Italian because it is my daughters favorite. DD said she wasn't really hungry, then she said her food wasn't good, etc. I'm so embarrassed and angry. I talked with her about and she said she doesn't like to do "family" stuff.
We are moving Monday, DH is working out of town and she hasn't helped me one bit. Lays in her bed eating and watching tv while I pack the rest of the house. I've suggested and asked for her help but she starts piddling in her room and next thing I know she's quit. I asked her if it doesn't bother her that I work a job, come home cook supper, do her laundry, take her places, and she just lays around texting and watching tv and she said "Well, that's just what you do, take a nap if you want too!" She admits she's a different person with her friends and at school. I get glowing remarks from teachers, parents, and administrators.
It stresses me more to fight with her than to just do stuff myself. I can see from what I've typed, I've created a spoiled monster. She doesn't act like she loves or appreciates me, and she certainly doesn't care about her new family. I know what most of you will say, I have been too soft for too long, but is it too late to fix her selfishness? I kow a lot of teens are like this or worse but I want her to have empathy with others and be kind even when she doesn't care or want too.