I'm pretty sure that when your daughter was in kindergarten, she made friends with kids you didn't know. Just like when your dd was 5, before you let her go out with them, or go to their homes, you get to know them & their parents. Invite them to your home. Ask their parents to stop in for a cuppa. Don't let her hang out with kids more than a ear older than her, unless YOU are supervising the gettogether. Volunteering for the clubs and functions she is interested in, is another way to meet the kids and their parents, that your child is interested in. Worked out fine for us. I don't see the problem.
Have your daughter invite them to the house, and then don't hover, just be available.
Welcome to growing up, the older they get the less you know about there friends.
It gets harder as they get older sometimes. Have fun getting to know them :)
I totally understand. When my daughter was in elementary school I was very involved in the school and knew all the kids, then she moved to middle school and I still knew most of the kids/friends. Now she is in high school and she skipped a year so most of these kids are a year older and I don't know any of them because none of them went to school with her. It's hard, but the way I handle it is by knowing that I raised her with the knowledge of right and wrong and I can only hope that she uses that knowledge to make all the decisions. We also have a great communication system and she tells me everything. Sometimes I wish she wouldn't. LOL good luck and know that your not the only one.
It is a hard adjustment to make but there is no reason you can't meet some of her friends especially if she wants to go to their house or go somewhere to hang out with them. Our rule has always been that we had to meet the friends and parents before they went somewhere with them especially if they were going to the other person's house.
It is a common occurance, it comes with the the age. Ask her to invite her new friends over for a slumber party, movie night or pizza. Maybe she can host a Holiday party.
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