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Bed wetting HELP!!!

Posted by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:50 PM
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My 12 yr old daughter is still wetting the bed. I have taking her to several dr's taking soo many test etc. we have gone sonograms to ck er bladder etc. they just say tat it's something she will grow out of! But hate that she cant have sleep overs, she can't sleep anywhere. When we visit relatives it's a constant worry about her wetting their beds etc. plz any advice? She's already taken prescribed pills etc nothing has helped.

by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:50 PM
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tyfry7496
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:57 PM

She CAN go to sleepovers without worries. Get her some Depends. You need to take her to a pediatric urologist and find out what is wrong. It is NOT normal for 12 yr olds to be wetting the bed for no reason. Her bladder could be weak or under developed. She could have a psychological reason for bed wetting but you need to find out. 

My friends son is 13 and still wets the bed but he has bladder issues and has been taking medication for years. He may outgrow it by the time he gets through puberty. 


ALLGIRLS77
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 11:06 PM

She does wear depends..... She gets embarrassed and hates wearing them. I do tell her all the time that there is nothing to be embarrassed about and there more kids out there with her same problems.

fantasticfour
by Grumpy on Nov. 15, 2012 at 11:40 PM

That sounds an awful lot like my brother who wet the bed until he joined the marines.  Turned out that he wasn't sleeping so hard he didn't wake up, he actually woke up and then for some reason (my parents said because he was lazy) he would go back to sleep.  Could it be that she's a little scared to get up at night?  Or perhaps wakes up and then decides she can hold it?

My nefews had the same problems when they were younger, and I simply would refuse any kind of liquids 2 hours before bed, go to the bathroom before bed, and then wake them up to go to the bathroom when I went to bed (around midnight).  This might help out.

tyfry7496
by on Nov. 16, 2012 at 12:04 AM
There is nothing to be embarrassed about. They make "pads" for the issue that look like pads for periods. More discreet. They're called Poise. Maybe those would be better for her?

Wish I could give better advice.


Quoting ALLGIRLS77:

She does wear depends..... She gets embarrassed and hates wearing them. I do tell her all the time that there is nothing to be embarrassed about and there more kids out there with her same problems.

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bizzeemom2717
by on Nov. 16, 2012 at 12:39 AM
My best friends daughter had the same issue until about age 14, they said she would outgrow it at puberty and she did. I would look for the most discrete looking depends you can find. Good luck it was tough on her dd too. :(
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ALLGIRLS77
by on Nov. 16, 2012 at 2:07 AM

Thanks everyone


suesues
by Silver Member on Nov. 16, 2012 at 7:23 AM

look in bed wetting alarms

drfink
by Emily on Nov. 16, 2012 at 10:35 AM

One of my nieces had that issue.The docs called it an immature bladder.It didn't send strong signals at night.They said 99.99% out grow it through puberty.She did.She also used a certain brand that weren't like bulky diapers.Can't remember the name.

Bless your daughter's  heart ,it was tough then she out grew it .Good luck.

dobrd
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 6:40 PM

ALLGIRLS77, I totally agree w/tyfry7496.. This isn't for a family Dr. She definately needs to see a Specialist for sure.. Take Care, Donna....

hwifeandmom
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 9:05 PM

The American Academy of Pediatrics has a book "Waking Up Dry" that explains the various causes of bedwetting and what you can do about it, if anything.  It also includes stats on how many people at what age still wet the bed.  Sometimes it's nice knowing you're not alone. The book is designed to be used WITH the child and is an easy read.  It's full of bedwetting humor, too.  Check your local library for a copy.

The two basic reasons for bedwetting are #1 - the body hasn't yet developed the necessary hormone to tell the kidneys to slow urine production when the body is asleep, and #2 - the body hasn't learned to awaken to a full bladder.

If failure to develop the hormone is the problem, then prescription medication (a synthetic version of the body's hormone) will work for approximately 80% of people. If failure to develop the hormone IS the problem but medication doesn't work, then you'll just have to wait for nature to take it's course and develop naturally. Sometimes that's at puberty, sometimes later. 

If hormone development is NOT the problem, then you have to look at other causes -- medical causes, being a heavy sleeper, constipation, etc.  Have you tried a bedwetting alarm?

My 17yr daughter has bowel troubles that affect her bladder.  She almost always wets the bed.  She has used the Depends for sleepovers and camp with no problem.  She has limited sleepovers to homes where we have felt comfortable discretely telling the mom about her problem, so mom can make sure she gets some privacy to change and throw away her pull-up in the morning.  I always send extra grocery sacks for her to wrap her pull-up in the morning.

I wish there were easy answers.  I feel badly for our poor kids that they struggle with this at such an advanced age, but sometimes there's nothing that can be done about it no matter how badly we want it.  I hope you find a solution.



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