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My 13 year old wants my ex and his GF to come for Thanksgiving.

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I know some of you read and responded to my long intro post about my 13 year old not too long ago. I mentioned how I had suggested that all of us go to dinner or something once a month just to show Sky that we can all be ok with each other. One or the other of them felt uncomfortable with that, which I undertand. Recently his GF had Sky call me while they were both together to ask me to go work out with them and I couldn't because I had already made plans to get together with my best friend that day whom I rarely see. That wasn't the only reason I didn't go. I didn't go because it was so last minute and I couldn't seem to wrap my head around hanging out at the gym of all places. To me working out is something you do with people you know a little better and I was nervous about it. But I agreed to go yesterday (a week after the first invite) and it was odd, but alright. That said, Sky mentioned to me that she wanted to invite her father and his girlfriend over for Thanksgiving. My response was...I wasn't sure how either of them would feel about that. It might be too uncomfortable or awkward. When we were at the gym she brought it up to both of us which tipped me off that she had already asked the GF before yesterday. He replied this morning via email saying this: (He is hispanic so pardon the grammar)

"I don't think for us to be going to your gathering will be appropiate. I'm pretty sure that it'll make Mary very uncomfortable and i don't want to go thru it. On my side of the coin, i'll say that i have to decline the invitation, there's no attachment for me to your side of the family, and viceversa,  no disrespect, but is the way it is. But thanks for the invite, i do appreciate it.  I hope that Sky will understand and no create any rencor inside her that might deepen her issues, which it constantly worries me."

Is it bad that I am INCREDIBLY relieved by this? Was the following response from me ok?

"I do understand completely and after thinking about it I feel the same way. I talked to Cory about it and though he would do what ever I wanted he would also feel uncomfortable and I don't want to do that to him. I don't think it will deepen any issues for Sky. I myself would also feel uncomfortable and I just don't see any need to put any of us through that. It would have gone against my better judgement and it was really giving me trouble and I knew it would give you trouble too. It's just one of those things that sky will need to understand."

by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:15 PM
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by Grumpy on Nov. 21, 2012 at 8:15 AM

Let me tell you, when I was 19 I invited both my parents to thanksgiving dinner.  I was living on my own, newly wed and even RENTED a huge table for everyone including grandparents to come and eat at.  O.M.G. I will NEVER do that again.  It was the most uncomforatble thing in the world.

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