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Rasing a teen with Bi Polar

Posted by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 3:48 PM
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 My son is Bi Polar about to turn 14 & out of control. My husband is deployed Im more than over whelmed & needing support any info that could be of sum help. I know im not the only one going threw this but.. I feel so alone.

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 3:48 PM
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by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 4:56 PM

Your far from alone, there are times I find myself crying outloud silently if that makes any sense. My daughter has been hospitalized three times and is now doing a partial treatment program because going to regular school is too over whelming for her. I do alot of praying! My thing is not giving up on all the coping skills she learns, I continue to push her into practicing coping. I know its nerve wrecking but hang in there.

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 5:08 PM

You are not alone. My grown-up daughter is not by-polar but has definately been diagnosed with depression and mood swings. i really thought she was bi-polar and the doctor told me there is not much difference. I'm assuming your son is on medication. If so, is he taking them? I know its hard for you right now because he is so young. It does get easier. I say this because i had to tell my daughter I couldn't help her if she doesn't take her meds to help herself. She finally realised this on her own. Praying does help your soul.

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 6:30 PM

 I have a mood disorder myself I worry everyday my teen daughters behavior is borderline. I wish I could help more. :(

by Trisha on Nov. 26, 2012 at 6:50 PM

What kind of help/counceling is your son recieving?  Have you considered counceling for yourself?  Are you close to a military base if so there may be resources available to help you learn to deal with your son's disorder.  I know our base has many resources for many things.  Good luck and I hope things get easier

by Shauna on Nov. 26, 2012 at 7:18 PM

Quoting fammatthews4:

What kind of help/counseling is your son receiving?  Have you considered counseling for yourself? 

This as well as checking to see if there are wraparound services available in your area. A Mobile therapist or Behavioral Specialist Consultant may be able to help with his behaviors both in and outside of the home.

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 9:24 PM

Not personally but a very good friend of mine is raising 2 teens who are Bipolar. There house can be a literal war zone at times. If both kids are manic, it's scary. I have watched both teens and have dealt with manic and depressive moods in them. The quickness of the moods scared me but I learned how to deal with it, including calling the police when they threatened harm to themselves or me. It was the hardest call to make the first time it happened but I knew that would be the way for them to get immediate mental health help. Learn as much as you can about Bipolar, get into counseling yourself so you can learn how to deal with your child's moods. Bipolar is hard to deal with,especially in a teenager. 

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 9:34 PM

Oh boy good luck!

by Kimberly on Nov. 26, 2012 at 9:59 PM

I have no personal experience, but my son has a friend who is bi polar.    He does very well as long as he is on his meds.     Good Luck!  My heart goes out to you.

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 10:36 PM

Sounds like he is NOT taking his meds, which is par for the course.  Take him his meds every morning, watch him put them in his mouth, watch him swallow,  then CHECK to make sure they went down.  He better not bite!  Our Pdoc said the only reason meds don't work, is that they aren't being taken.  Even if it's not the "right" med, or he needs a stronger dosage, it WILL do SOMETHING--if it actually gets in the bloodstream.  I also wonder if either of you is in counseling.  If not, you should be.  FAMILY counseling is essential. 

by on Nov. 28, 2012 at 2:32 PM

Two years ago I thought I was going to lose my mind.  With some very intense therapy, a very dedicated doctor, a very firm on the outside approach, and meds we see a light!!  DS had started with some normal teen behavior.  it was annoying yes, alarming no.  Then out of nowhere he started doing crazy things. Things that were completely unrational. (He broke down our outside door because it locked when he went out. The nearest open door? About 20ft away)  We constantly fought, he was out of control.  He ended up in therapy 3 times a week and a group on a 4th day.  While this is very draining, I am happy to say that I see my son again. I also had to let go of the guilt of letting others help me with him.  I didn't want him to feel like I was  pawning him off.  But yet when he seemed to respond so positively to the extra time with my dad and uncle, I felt like it was good for him too. The psychiatrist said consider them part of the team, your team. Any positive influence let them help!! Best advice ever. And hold your ground, be consistant, and set black and white rules, consequences, and rewards. Post those in your home for all to see.

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