I hope this doesn't get too long! I'm new here. I have 3 girls, ages 16, 13 and 8. They are all wonderful kids. We have never had any trouble with any of them. My 16 year old has 'dated' various boys since 7th grade. This 'dating' consisted of seeing each other at school and the occasional group outing, or a supervised visit in our home. None of these 'relationships' ever lasted longer than 3 months. She began dating her current boyfriend a little over 2 months ago and I can tell this is much more serious than any of her previous boyfriends. They have only been on 2 'dates' alone together, one to play putt-putt and the other on a picnic in a public park. Other than that they get together in our home or his and are not allowed in a bedroom or behind closed doors. They are both very busy with school and extracurriculars, and we are fairly strict parents, his are even more so, so they don't have a lot of 'down time' to spend together. He is a nice kid--my husband and I don't object. I am very open in speaking with her about sex and relationships; she tells me that they both want to wait, and that they have discussed and know their 'boundaries.' What I have discovered recently, however, is that they are engaging in 'sexting.' I totally invade her privacy and read her texts occasionally, and it is pretty graphic. So far it is just words, but he asks for pictures and I don't know how long she will be able to hold off. It sounds like he is basically using this as his 'porn' when he...ummm...satisfies himself? I appreciate they want to wait for sex--I'm all for that! But I'm reading that kids who 'sext' are generally already sexually active or are more likely to become so, and I'm worried that their ability to 'wait' will be hindered by their raging libidos being fed by the whole sexting thing. Trust me when I tell you we've talked about ALLLL of it...the dangers of sending anything inappropriate online or via text, the dangers of unprotected sex, what it does to your heart if you go too far with a boy and then break up, etc., etc. She knows she can come to me if she thinks sex is going to happen and I will assist with protection/birth control, even if I don't approve. So I guess my question is...is this now considered normal behavior for teens who know they aren't ready for the 'real thing'? Should I be concerned, or should I just be happy that she isn't actually having sex? Keep in mind that I wouldn't suspect a THING if I had never read her texts, or if she was in the habit of deleting incriminating evidence...these are very straight-laced, high performing kids. Anybody had a similar experience? What did you do, if anything? Thanks in advance!