I'm seeking out your advice because aside from praying, nothing else has seemed to work. For starters, we are a blended family, which consists of me, my husband, our son, and my daughter from my 1st marriage. We have been a blended family since 2001, so my daughter was 5 when we married. Thus, it's not like it's a new relationship. My daughter is 17, will be 18 in a few days. After living with her Dad for about 5 years (schools were better in his area), she came to live with us (2 years ago) because she and her dad and stepmother were not getting along, in part, due to her behavior. Being self centered, she is only concerned with how things affect her, never considering that her actions or lack thereof have an affect on other people. Because she does not have a driver's license (not mature or responsible enough to have them), she requires me or a friend of hers to drive her around. When she needs to go somewhere, she makes the plans without consulting with me and just assumes that I'll stop what I'm doing (working) to take her. She works, but only because she wants spending money. As for her responsibilities at home, I have to check behind her to make sure she does them. And when she does do them, they're usually "half-a$$ed." Is it not common sense that when I ask her to clean her bathroom, that means the floor also? Sometimes I don't know how she breathes unassisted. The litterbox can stink to high Heaven, but if I don't tell her to clean it out, it will sit there uncleaned. Her room looks like a cyclone went through there because she's always "working on it" yet it's never gets thoroughly cleaned. To make matters worse, she has a smart mouth and back talks not only me, but her stepfather as well because as she says, "I don't like him." Given her laziness, lack of respect & ambition, and just overall immaturity, my husband is sick of her and wants nothing more to do with her. These are the same behaviors she exhibited at her Dad's until he just couldn't stand to be around her anymore and his marriage nearly came to an end. Naturally, her behavior creates tension in our otherwise fabulous marriage. I'm just at a loss. I ground her, but I really don't have any collateral to get her attention, like a driver's license. Lacking ambition, she just hangs out in her room. I assign chores to prevent that, but again, they get done half-a$$ed. She has a cell phone, which will be coming off my husband's contract on her 18th birthday because he refuses to help her any longer. So what else is there? I need advice on how to motivate her to grow up and act her age. Sorry to be so long-winded, but thanks in advance for lending your ears.