My 14 year old sons best friend moved away this past summer. His other friend got a girlfriend that is very manipulative and mean to my son. He now has no friends and pretends like it doesn't bother him. But when I pick him up after school I see him sitting alone and watching all of the other kids laughing and having fun. 95% of the 8th graders walk to the coffee shop at lunch and I've encouraged my son to go with them, he doesn't want to. There are no sports at their school, but he doesn't do sports anyway. We started setting up a Magic:TG club, but all the rest of the kids that played have moved onto something else. I was taking him to the local comic book Magic night, most of the people there are MUCH older and a bit odd. Plus it didn't get done until after 10 and he has to be at school at 7 for orchestra. It's actually his 14th birthday today and I asked him if he wanted to invite someone to do something for it, he said there wasn't anyone to ask and then teared up and went to his room. He does play xbox online with some kids from his school, but they won't actually talk to him at school. I'm just at a loss and want to help him. None of my other kids have ever struggled with making friends so this is all new to me. Anyone have any suggestions?
*Thank you all for your repsonses. We've done every sport offered in our area at one point or another for at least a seaon and no interest. I've looked into other activites, there was a computer program that he went to for a while, but he so far surpassed everyone else it just wasn't worth the cost any more. He also was in a group that played D&D which was fun, but again they were quite a bit older than my son and the older they got the less they wanted him around, then when his best friend left that was the end of it. We've had over, at some point, at least 90% of the 8th graders at his school and a bunch more from other grades. Just no one has connected with my son. The only 1 club at school that my son is eligble for, chess, he has gone a few times in the past and I will encourage him to give it another try. He's done a few xbox gaming tournaments and had a great time. Once again we run into the problem with only being for older players. He made it to the 3rd teir on some game last year. Then it was held in a bar and he couldn't go any further. I'm thinking I'm just going to have to help him bide his time and wait a few years. Maybe things will even get a bit better next school year when he's in 9th grade and taking classes with some of the older kids. *sigh*
Thanks again for your input. I've got some new ideas and thoughts about it all now. :)