Got a message on facebook tonight from my Dad. My Dad is a night owl and was looking on facebook and was sending out Happy New Years posts as he is want to do. Dad said he went to my SD13's facebook page to send her a message and saw several messages posted from her friends that concerned him and he wanted to let me know about it. I took a look and I am shocked. These kids are SD13's age and are talking about drinking, getting drunk, and one girl posted a conversation she supposedly had with her mother in which the girl cusses at her mother and tells her to leave her the "f---" alone and threw a book or something at her mother. So I got to checking some of SD13's friends, she has over 300. There are some people on here that are 10-20 years older than her that live out of the country and she has no friends in common with them. There are also kids on here that are her age and I believe go to her school and one of them listed "pimpin' the hoes" as his job. Another had a picture of a marijuana pipe as her big picture on facebook. Another listed some extremely derrogatory references to females in his job status. I am apalled!!! SD13 is a sweet, smart, beautiful young lady but she also has severe self-esteem issues due to being overweight and she has a very difficult time standing up to people. She will say or do what she thinks the other person wants to hear to make sure the other person is happy (if that makes sense).
Let me first say, I WILL NOT BE HANDLING THIS!!! I am going to pass this information on to DH and let him handle it. But DH told SD13 when she got her facebook account that DH, BM, Gma, and I have the right to access her account at anytime and if there is something we deem inappropriate, her facebook account will be deleted. I don't think these qualify for her account to be deleted, but we will definitely be going through her friend list and making several blocks/unfriend requests.
So how far do you go in making your child accountable for something someone else posts on facebook. Would you simply have your child delete her friendship with the person making questionable posts? Again, she is a lovely girl with amazing potential. I just don't want these friends/associations bringing her down in any way!!!