OK the past 32 days have been insane under our roof. Our DS (one & only) turned 15 on the 20th of Nov. Shortly after that things took a turn for the worst so to speak.
A few days after DS's birthday my DH was rushed to the ER in the middle of the night. Early December my DH was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. With a secondary form of cancer as well.
We still are in the process of finding out what's going on with DH. As in medications, treatments and what not. But we have no clue what to expect as this not only blind sided us but even doctors don't know much about this form of cancer.
In our home there are very few things that are not shared. Of course DH and I don't share "adult details" or things like that. But we do talk about a lot of things that effect us as a whole family.
Here's my concerns. We've told DS as much as we can with out scaring him. We have told him he can come talk to us whenever he has questions or anything about what's going on. We have even heard him tell a few people (with our permission of course) that DH has cancer.
However when I've asked him if he had any questions or concerns he changes the subject ASAP. Then holes himself up in his room playing pc games or is in the living room watching movies/playing games.
We've even suggested that we go as a family to a cancer support group or see a counselor to help us as a family discuss everything. But when we have brought it up he changes the subject ASAP. Or replies... "I'm good."
I know I can force my DS to talk about it. I can only hope he's reached out to his best friend to talk. Or that he finally reaches out to talk to us. I'm not sure how to help my DS accept that DH's life and our lifestyle/lives have changed as well.
Cancer is something new to us. None of us have had to deal with it in the immediate family until now. Anyone have suggests or anything?