Yes, he is the dad that left us for another woman, moved 10 hours away and is late every month with child support and has stopped paying the other things he agreed to pay. He sails in every few months and showers her with attention and takes her places, spends money and she gets all the attention for a few days. She has a wonderful time, can't wait to see him again, blah blah. I'm the bad parent now, the one who never left, buys her things, cooks for her, takes her where she needs to be, is always there and wants to be. I've bent over backwards to make her life the best it can be in light of a divorce and I'm the one who never gets a hug, rarely gets a thank you or even a smile. She never called me once while she was visiting with him last week. But I did get to read how great he is on Twitter. I've not gotten any of those Twitter comments. Of course I will never tell her how this hurts, hopefully someday it will be clear to her but I doubt it.
Yes, this is a poor me, but I know I'm not alone and for the other custodial moms out there who end up with the bad rap, and can't be the "fun" parent I share your pain, anger and disbelief at how things end up.