My parents were ridiculously strict and I rebelled. I never did anything really stupid like sex and drugs but I rebelled in other ways. If I was grounded, I would jump out my bedroom window and hang out with my friends anyway. If they didn't like my B, then by God they were going to love that C I was deliberately going to get on my next report card. I was stubborn and spiteful and I gave my parents a run for their money. Eventually, things got so heated, we just couldn't live together anymore. I moved out and moved in with a family friend. She had already raised two teeangers and knew exactly what to do. She left me alone! She praised my good behavior, gave me disapproving looks when I got mouthy. She never said one harsh word to me. The punishment always fit the crime and I knew that I was punished with love. I never got in any trouble again.
So now I have my own teenager to raise and I am faced with this issue. Which route should I take? Strict, strict when needed, or lenient parenting? When she was younger, I chose strict when needed parenting. But now that she is a teenager, I get heat from other parents who say I need to lay down the law when she does something that I think is harmless teenage craziness. Okay, she was cranky and a little rude this morning when she woke up. Big deal. I should ground her for not being a morning person? Uhh..no.
So my question is:
Are you an advocate of strict, strict when needed, or lenient parenting? Why?
Is your parenting style a result of your parent's style?