So, let me start by saying that I am totally and completely open to ANYONE, including my own children, being Bi, Lesbian, Gay. What ever makes them happy is what makes me and their Dad happy, BUT they better treat our babies like they deserve to be treated or else! So, my reason for being stumped..... I am wondering what else I should do, say or ask other then my immediate response that it's OK and that she will NEVER be shunned from our family or made to be a freak. We have a large, open family. So far no one has come out to say they are gay, but we are all open to it, even the older generation. I don't want to say or do the wrong thing and possibly make her feel less confident then she already feels. But I don't know, like how do you bring upto a 12 year old.... "so, you still think you're a lesbian?" Like how the HECK do I re-start the conversation. I thought about offering counseling again.... she was in it for years as a youngster because her BIRTH(let me re-fraise that "Egg Donnor) has been in and out of her life since she was 2. She no longer wants anything to do with the "Donnor" because of all that she's been though, which has been enough to send some 12 year olds into downward spirals or drug/alcohol abuse. But she's been so open and honest about her feelings with all of that, and has found her feelings and seen through all the BS to the truth. She's so strong sometimes and it killed me to hear her be so worried that being interested in girls would make us think she's a freak! So... any takers on how I should handle the situation? Do I let her start the topic again or should I find a way someway to bring it up?