OK, got to the nitty gritty last night. My son had also stolen my laptop and my external hard drive.
I found the laptop last night in his room. I don't use it often so it went unnoticed. I got it back and looked at it and it is no longer in working order. He had told his friend, "A" that he had stolen it, A got excited and wanted to see he so he took it to school. He then got nervous and A took it home because my son didn't want to get caught with it. He got the laptop back the day before I found it. The external hard drive was tampered with and is no longer in working order. Apparently my son wasn't bright enough to get the power cord to it and A tried to figure out why it wouldn't turn on by taking it apart.
Because my son stole it, and A knew it was stolen and they both tamperred with it to the point of destroying it, I believe they are both at fault for this matter. "A" is claiming innocence. My son was devistated that his friend was going to get into trouble for it and he would "lose" his best friend over this matter but maintained that he was aware it was stolen.
I do not want to go to the police and file charges against both boys (son for theft and destruction and A for possession of stolen property and destruction), but I do want consequences. I spoke to the asst. principal today because A's parents were there with the external harddrive (I called them last night and informed them he had it and it was stolen), maintaining their son's innocence.
I do want something done. I feel that restitution on BOTH boy's parts is the best way to go and to teach them that this is not something that is tolerated. Criminal record, or suspension, not so much because it's a punishment without a lesson.
What do you think? Too over the top? I know what I'm going to be doing so I'm not looking for you to tell me I'm right or looking for justification in this matter, just curious on what other parents would do.
Do I believe this boy knew it was stolen, yes I do. And from what I learned about this boy since yesterday, I have no doubts. I have met the boy once, and that's it. I have never met the boy's parents so I have other people telling me of their experiences with this boy.