Hi everyone! I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown. You see, I am a brand new grandmother of a cute little girl. The problem is, my daughter, the baby's mother is still being rude and disrespectful towards me.
But that's everday. My concern was for my granddaughter. I felt that my daughter, at 17 was incapable of taking care of someone so young. She wouldn't clean her room (a baby needs a sterile environment), not telling anyone that the baby needs milk nor cleaning the bottles/nipples. It broke my heart when I picked up the baby and she was sucking hungrily on her pacifier.
I couldn't stand aside and let this continue, especially when she and her bf slept through the baby's wailing. I contacted the paternal grandmother about my concerns and they responded that they would be interested in getting custody of the baby, rather than having CPS place her in foster care.
Now my daughter comes in the house furious with me, telling me to mind my #@#% business, and that I'm a selfish bitch. Rather than argue with her, I let her rant and scream at me until finally, she dissolved into tears.
*sigh*. I may be the most hated mother on the planet, but, it's a small price to pay for looking out for a young baby..
Did you try talking to your daughter before contacting the paternal Grandparents, or was that your 'first move'? Perhaps your daughter can take some parenting classes. If she isn't capable of or willing to take proper care of her baby, you had to step in to protect the baby.
Quoting boys2men2soon:Did you try talking to your daughter before contacting the paternal Grandparents, or was that your 'first move'?
Yes, I did try talking to her. she'd roll her eyes at me saying "I know, Mom!" I'll admit, I wasn't the best mom to her when she was young but I'm not that person anymore. My concern is for the baby. It hurt that I had to do it, but in the end, I want my granddaughter to be protected; I can't stand aside and allow her to be raised by two unemployed young parents who act like the world owes them something, particularly my daughter.
Quoting imperfectmom72:
Quoting boys2men2soon:Did you try talking to your daughter before contacting the paternal Grandparents, or was that your 'first move'?
Yes, I did try talking to her. she'd roll her eyes at me saying "I know, Mom!" I'll admit, I wasn't the best mom to her when she was young but I'm not that person anymore. My concern is for the baby. It hurt that I had to do it, but in the end, I want my granddaughter to be protected; I can't stand aside and allow her to be raised by two unemployed young parents who act like the world owes them something, particularly my daughter.
Quoting atlmom2:
This is why kids shouldn't be mothers.
Quoting tyfry7496:
You did what's best for the baby. Once your daughter grows up she will see this. Hopefully. If the paternal grandparents take custody I hope your daughter and the father take parenting classes so they can be parents at some point.
I agree with this. The baby could not speak up for itself, and so it seems like you did what was best right now.
Quoting bizzeemom2717:
So what was your plan to help the baby though? Why were the paternal grandparents willing to adopt it instead of CPS placement? Were you considering placing the baby with CPS? Babies don't need a "sterile" enviornment like you said, just a clean and healthy one with a responsible loving adult.No ma'am I am not in the position to provide for the baby (unemployed but actively job searching); I am on FS to help out. I do not wish for CPS to place the child anywhere that's not family but her paternal grandparents and I had a meeting and we all decided that it would be in the best interests of the baby and mother that the baby stay with the grandparents as they can better provide than I could alone.
Ladies, thank you alot for your input. It was a very difficult post to write becuase there is a lot more to the story. I was crushed to see my daughter cry like that but in the end, the baby's needs are paramount. I went into her room after she left and again, not one effort was made to tidy up, at least clean up the mess. When I contacted the caseworker, I gave her the paternal gm's number. I hope we can do this ASAP. I felt that i had no choice in "snitching". I'm a sensitive empathetic person and to see a baby or anyone's baby not cared for properly bothers me.
It was hard but I didn't let her rattle me, although when she came up to me aggressively i backed off a bit. Welcome to the real world, little girl. It's an unforgiving place. I love her, but when she turns 18 in 3 weeks she's is on her own. Meanwhile, I'll be working on creating a life and being there for my grandchild!
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- imperfectmom72
on Feb. 3, 2013 at 8:24 PM