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Bad to Worse

Posted by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:03 AM
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What does it take to get this kid some help?

He ran away tonight.  FINALLY found out where he was.  At some kid's house I have NEVER heard of, who I have never had interaction with, etc.  So I didn't know what to do, called the police and asked if I should go over there to get him (not knowing the parents or able to find a working phone number) or if I needed an escort.  They said they would have an officer call back.  Dispatch called said a cop would be waiting on us.  Get there, MISCOMMUNICATION on the dispatcher's side and I got CHEWED OUT!  They said I should just go over there and get him and not waste his time!  That was the reason I called!  I didn't call 911 I called nonemergency!

So I pick him up and get him home.  Dad starts trying to talk to him, explains that you can't do that, blah blah blah and he throws himself on the floor screaming.  Literally THROWS himself.  Bloodied his head up pretty good.  Get him calmed down, cleaned up, I send dad out of the room to calm down and I sit down at the kitchen table (he's sitting on the floor) and try to talk to him.  What did I say to trigger it?  Oh yeah I told him selfpity was the most useless emotion and he said no love was.  I asked him why love was and he said "where did it ever get me".  So I asked him to explain that and he bloodied his head up again.  Has scratches on his neck/shoulder from where I was trying to keep his head from hitting the floor.  While he screamed for me to kill him.

That's it.  911.  Cops come, but because he didn't say HE was going to kill himself only that he wanted ME to do it, they couldn't commit him forcibly.  EMS show up.  Cops hoped he needed stitches to get him INTO the hospital so they would keep him.  Nope, don't need stitches.  Finally says he will go to the hospital, no one has beds and they all told me that if he wasn't suicidal then they wouldn't take him anyways and since both cop and ems were here and didn't transport him they wouldn't take him because he wasn't suicidal. 

WTF does it take to get this kid some help?????

I'm to the point of a 72 hour vacation

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:03 AM
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by Silver Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 4:50 AM

Are there other hospitals around you? If so, I'm sorry but it's gotten to the point where I would tell them that he's suicidal in order to get some help. Or if there were no hospitals - I would keep calling this hospital and telling them that he's a danger to himself. It's not lying because it has gotten to that point.

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:04 AM
Wow, have things really changed that much? Im 41, and I was hospitalized for the 1st time at 16. I think my parents called my therapist and she helped it along, BUT I was willing to go, I had no clue what it would be like, but it wasnt what I expected. I willingly went again at 17 1/2 into an eating disorder unit, it was only women and teens were in there too. Throughout the years, as an adult, Ive had to go inpatient many times, usually at my request, maybe my dr or therapist would SUGGEST it, but I went willingly, my dh or exdh or my mom would take me there. I havent been inpatient in about 7 1/2 yrs. It was never a problem being admitted. Im sorry youre going through. Im surprised at how hard it is to get him admitted. Its very sad.
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by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 7:38 AM

Oh wow! My heart goes out to you. He definitely needs help. Maybe a guidance counselor at school has the answer. They know ways of getting children help before they do something. The police and EMS are only useful after they do something wrong. Good luck and big hugs!!!hugging

by Gold Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 8:31 AM
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I am so sorry this is happening to you.  I wish I had some advice or cure for you. I will keep you in my prayers  momma. Huge hugs.

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 9:28 AM

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  Can't you get him in under a voluntary commitment?  Can you get his therapisy on board with getting him committed for at least 72 hours?

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 9:44 AM
We had to get my SD into the foster care system before we got Any help. She was a constant runaway, cutter, emotional abuser to her brothers, and got physical with me. We tried to have her committed and even when she did say she was suicidal At That Moment they still wouldn't admit her. We're at the point now where she's in an independent living program to help teach her how to live on her own (getting a job, apartment, paying bills). She's not going to be coming home due to the constant threats she's made on me and Ds2.
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by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 10:39 AM
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by Kimberly on Feb. 4, 2013 at 11:52 AM

Maybe you can contact his doctor and/or therapist and they can have him admitted?

I am so sorry!   Hang in there.

by Bronze Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:00 PM

Wow, you would have thought seeing the blood, scratches, etc that the police would help you get him admitted to at least an overnight phych hospital. He's a danger to himself, he needs help if he is saying 'just kill him'. Couldn't you have gone to the emergency room & they could have admitted him? Hope you get help for him soon. Sure feel bad for you and him.

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