No, you're not doing anything wrong--you're just a parent who's going through the same thing we all did, or are still doing: dealing with a new teenager. As soon as they hit 13, they're aliens and we have no idea what happened to the child we once knew and loved. All I can say is be firm, be reasonable, be consistent, and most of all, be kind. Don't let her run you over--you're her parent, not her friend, and she needs to remember that. Ignore the attitude, no matter how bad it gets, and stick to your guns. If consequences are necessary, then give them (this is where the "reasonable" part comes in). Don't let your emotions get the best of you. I have six kids (four grown and two teens at home), so I know what you're going through! Be patient, and saying a prayer here and there helps immensely as well!
Sounds like you are doing very right! She is at that awkward age..... attitude, moodiness, etc. Stand firm.. she will come around.
When the child seems like they hate you you are doing the right thing. Right now she is simmering. Let her. You will know when the time is right to talk. Obviously there is something going on that is deeper than a respect issue. When my SS turned 13 he was on the brink of becoming out of control. It took me, his father, and his mother to set him straight. We all had to be on the same page to get results. Turns out he was issues with other kids. We were able to talk him through it and he was able to work things out. Since then we have been like every other family with a teen. lol.
I have a 13 yo girl. They are a pain aren't they? Love her to death but yeah the attitude is annoying. You haven't done anything wrong. She's just EXTREMELY hormonal. I screw with my kid when she acts like that. (And I absolutely do not get offended by anything she comes back with. Rule #1!!)
For example: In the car - I sing very loudly and dance while sticking my fingers in her face. God she hates that
The other day, I knocked on her door and said knock knock. She said come in. I said you're supposed to say who's there. She said FINE! WHO'S THERE! I said banana. She said I'M NOT DOING THAT! I said FINE! APPLE! And walked in to her kinda smiling.
When she won't get up in the morning, I jump up and down on her mattress or I tickle her ears and nose with her hair. She gets a little mad but she kinda laughs and smiles.
I scream her name from the other side of the house to come here. When she gets there, I smile and say I love you! That usually gets me an eye roll and a stomp.
Simply put, I just screw with her and then I laugh at her. She gets a little mouthy and gives me dirty looks sometimes but I think it is friggin hilarious. She doesn't have to be the only pain in the ass in the house. HAHAHAHAHA
I do hope and pray the same thing especially that I am away with my children, that they are stubborn and having a bad attitude.
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- kidsnme1982
on Feb. 5, 2013 at 9:52 AM