Do you always tell your kids the truth?

[LuckyMom822]

When your teen asks you about your past, do you always tell the truth? My dd asked me the other day while studying the reproductive system how old I was when I first had sex. I took a deep breath and told the truth. She didn't bat an eye. I was 17. I went on to tell her I was graduated from high school and was entering my first year of college and that he wasn't the right guy. I think I may have just told her that its okay to have sex at 17!! She has asked about drugs before. I only smoked pot a couple of times and didn't care for it so I didn't have any heartburn answering that question. What do you do? Do you tell the truth or lie your butt off?

[LoveonHollySt]

I try to tell him as much truth that I think he is ready to handle.  He has seen a lot in his life and is ready for most of it.  It isn't my past I am worried about but his dad's.  He was a bit promiscuous when he was younger.  I think that when you are able to tell them things honestly about your past then they are able to see you better as a person who lived and made mistakes.  This humanizes you and they are able to better relate.

[fammatthews4]

My kids haven't ever asked me anything that I haven't answered truthfully.  

[atlmom2]

I did. Our dd's knew neither dh and I had sex in HS. Dh and I were each others firsts. Luckily, our girls followed in our foot steps waiting till out of hs. Dd 19 has a boyfriend of !lmost 2 years and is still a virgin.

[bizzeemom2717]

It would prob depend on the situation. So far on the sex issue I have been honest when they asked, my answer was nothing I wouldn't want them to hear. About drugs, they haven't asked straight out, I would still be honest though. Just because you told her the truth doesn't mean you condone it

[Lorena]

I tell them the truth. I can't hide that I had sex at 16 I have a 14 yr. Old from it. But I also share the struggles that we have had because of our decisions. I tell them I would not change it dir anything in the world but would like them to wait.

[gonecrazi]

 Tell the truth.

[MJP76]

I tell the truth always..

we talk to our children regularly about sex, and drugs, and life in general. We are a very open family.

[ICanHelp93]

if you want your child to be honest with you, you have to be honest with them. if she thinks you are lying to her, you will make her feel like it is okay for her to just tell you what you want to hear instead of the truth

[mommyneedssleep]

I so with both of my kids if they ask. They are 16 and 8 and I figure if I am honest with them, they will be honest with me!!! So far so good

[boys2men2soon]

I tell the truth, but not always the entire truth.   I don't go into more detail than necessary.