I have a seriously complicated situation.. I had become a mother at a very younge age. I was 14 when I got pregnant and 15 when I had her. I raised her for 3 years and went homeless, so I did what was best for her and sent her to her dads. He married and moved and filed for custody. We went through court and I had visitations at his descretion. Well, I never got to see her becuase he would keep moving and It would take a very long time to find them and when I did they would move again.
She grew up with them from the age of 3-4 to 16... Quite a long time. She moved in with me lastyear. She was hving a hard time at her dad's so he kicked her out. Of course I could never deny her a place to live, I love her. Well she moved in and confided in me that she was not a virgin. I listened and we came to a conclusion that she was to go on birthcontrol. We got her the shot and was very responsible for nine months to keep it up to date. We had a falling out and she decided to move back to her dads. I was fine with that. I had talked to her and told her that if she moved back then she was gonna have to tell him that she was active and that her shot was due within two weeks. Mind you she had slept with four guys in the period of time she was with me. She decided that she did not need it. I was not gonna be the fool and believe that she was gonna become a nun and not have anymore sex. Sorry, wasn't born yesterday. I called her dad and told him that she needed her shot and that she is active. He was shocked and tried to pin her losing her virginity on me. Lol, no I set him straight and informed him she had already been with two guys before she came out.
Since I let that cat out fo the bag with her dad, she wants nothing to do with me. But As a parent I am there to protect her, even if she is not in my house. I love her too much to see her go through what I did, she is better than that.
So my question is, Do any of you mom's think I crossed the line and betrayed my daughter? And if you do then what would have done to make sure she does not ruin her life???
Counseling will not work if the person needing counseling doesn't cooperate.
Quoting atlmom2:
She can at least listen.
Quoting bumNmoos_mom:
We tried everything to get her to go. . But she would not comply. She would just sit there and say nothing.
Quoting atlmom2:
She needs counseling. She is looking for love in all the wrong places. Way too many sexual partners.
Quoting tyfry7496:
If she was in counseling and not cooperating there is NO talking going on. She's wasting the counselors time when they could be helping someone who wants help.
Counseling will not work if the person needing counseling doesn't cooperate.
Quoting atlmom2:
She can at least listen.
Quoting bumNmoos_mom:
We tried everything to get her to go. . But she would not comply. She would just sit there and say nothing.
Quoting atlmom2:
She needs counseling. She is looking for love in all the wrong places. Way too many sexual partners.
Do you expect academic excellence from your kids? POLL Added
- bumNmoos_mom
on Feb. 7, 2013 at 8:46 PM