the last 2 years has been really crazy for our family. my uncle died from cancer. 3 months later one of our family friends lost their daughter, son-in-law and unborn grandchild in a house fire and my daughter was very close with thier daughter. then 3 months later a very close friend that my kids called their uncle died in a car wreck. my grandmother who we have lived with since before my kids were born almost died, but now she is bed ridden and isn't going to be with us much longer(she is going to be 80 in may if she makes it that long). my kids are crazy about her, they say she is their best friend and can always talk to her about anything. on july 5th of this year our aunt died. then a week after my birth day my real dad got ran over a killed(my kids knew him but not as well as they know my step dad). still he was their grandfather even thought they didn't get to see him very often. in octobor one of my daughters friend killed himself in the town park here where we live, which is right behind the highschool and all the kids heard the gun shot. then this past november our uncle passed away right after thanksgiving. my youngest duaghter seems to be doing ok. but my oldest one is not. i don't know if it's all the death mixed in with hormones or what but she's just not been herself lately. also on top of all this one of her best friends moved and she doesn't get to see her that often or talk to her like she use to and her other friend lives about an hour away doesn't get to come over as much any more or call her on the phone as much cause she is busy with school and helping take care of her mom. i just need some advice about how to talk to her with out us always fighting and also want to get her to come out of her room. she use to never be a type person that stayed in her room all the time, she was always outside or doing something with us but here lately she just wants to be alone and stuck in her room. and always has an attitude about everything. i will call her to tell her something and she gets an attitude with me weather it be to tell her something good or get her to come help me with something. sometimes i just feel like pulling my hair out cause of her attitude. on top of all this i had a hysterectomy in july of of this year and that makes me and her not click very well sometimes. SORRY IN ADVANCE FOR WRITING SO MUCH!!! ALSO THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR ALL THE ADVICE I GET BACK.