After having a discussion with my DD's dad and step mom we came to the decision that there will be very little opportunity for her and her boyfriend to be around each other. I had posted something about our situation a few days ago that he is 18 and she is only 14. I just went through her texts (since she didn't erase them this time) and it basically admits they have had sex but that we don't know it. That message just made my weekend a whole sit ton worse! I am not going to let her have her phone at all tomorrow and will be telling her dad that he needs to come here and to cancel his plans for today. CRAPITY CRAP CRAP! I am so very happy she has an appointment with her pediatrician in a week becasue she is going on BC and it's going to be the F-ing shot! I am also going to make her take a preggo test asap as well. If I have a preggo 14 year old a whole shit ton of heads are going to roll!
My husband and I talked to the boys parents this afternoon and found out some more truths. They thought we knew they were "dating" and were told we were OK with it. They were also told that we knew she was over at their house every time she was over (which was apparently a lot more than we knew). My daughter was making the boy depressed with the lies she was telling him about my husband and I. His parents reimbursed us for the Plan B we bought her and they agree that they are not to talk to each other.
Unfortunately my kid has no common sense and told people about what happened so she will have to deal with that tomorrow at school. Rumors are not a nice thing to deal with and kids are mean. I will be amazed if she doesn't come home crying.
I have calmed down and so we will not be pressing charges...as long as he doesn't try to contact her in any way until she is 18 (at which point he will likely have gotten over it any way). He apologized to us and was looking very depressed and distraught. Hopefully it's all over now...I hope they both learn from this.