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Do You Worry About Violence At Your Teens School?

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 11:56 AM
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Classmates Film 16-Year-Old Being Beaten on Bus, But No One Helps Her

Posted by Michele Zipp

school busI don't want to fear everything about sending my kids off to school, but I'm starting to get panicky, particularly when I see a video of a girl getting beaten by another student on the back of a school bus and, instead of stopping it, another kid is filming it. This all started in Pasco County, Florida, when Chase Cristia, a 16-year-old 10th grader at Mitchell High School, tried to diffuse an incident in the lunchroom when her friend was being picked on. She was threatened by another student who told her to "wait until later on the bus." Cristia reported the threat to her assistant principal but took the bus home as usual because they seemed to think nothing would happen.

Someone knew this was going to happen. Because not only did a girl march to the back of the bus to beat Cristia up, the attacker was filmed walking back there before the incident even started.

The kid filming seemed to be in on it, and the girl who did the repeated punching over the head didn't stop until a student stood up to her 16 seconds later. But by then, the damage was done and a young girl was visibly hurt and shaken by being attacked by a student she didn't even know.

If you're wondering what went on with the bus driver, it does seem he or she didn't have time to pull over before the beating was done. Though there was some issue with how fast it was reported. Who knows what the driver saw because it did happen fast and at the opposite end of the bus.

Then the incident was posted on Facebook and shared all over. To add to the pain of being assaulted, Cristia is now being teased by classmates because most everyone has seen the video, what happened, and sadly some kids think it's funny. But because of this, the two students involved, both in the 10th grade as well, were suspended. The Cristia family is pressing charges and filing a restraining order.

Kids can be mean. Kids can be cruel to each other. Kids do make mistakes and hopefully learn from them. I'm truly hoping that's the case here because Chase revealed that she did get an apology letter from the girl who attacked her. It read: "I'm sorry. I am so sorry, Chase." ABC News also reported that the attacker was hospitalized after making threats to harm herself after the incident. This just makes me so sad for everyone. Perhaps she can get help and learn from this and move on a better person. Why do our kids get so angry at others and the outcome is to fight it out? Why so much physical violence against each other?

As parents, we worry. But as parents, we can just do the best we can in teaching our kids what's right and wrong and hope they listen and learn and never find ourselves on either end of this kind of situation.

Do you worry about violence like this at your kid's school?

by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 11:56 AM
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by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 6:53 PM
Honestly, no. Only because the principal does not put up with any kind of violence. IF a fight breaks out he has it taken care of immediately. In 5 years there have been 4 fights and no bullying. The school even has a "no one sits alone" policy.

If my son was at one of the traditional high schools instead of the charter high school, I would be worried.
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by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 8:11 PM

No but she goes to a relatively small nonconservative Christian school and most of the kids are very nice. Fighting and bullying is strictly forbidden. When she went to public school, yes I worried. Most of those kids were bad! I couldn't get her out of that school fast enough.

by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 9:52 PM

Haven't had a reason to.  Sadly, crud is all over...

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 7:46 AM

I didn't read the article but no I don't and I drive my girls to school.

by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 8:11 AM

No but our district is every small. These kids go from preschool to HS graduation with the same kids. I've never heard of any violence (not even bullying) happen here. 

by on Feb. 13, 2013 at 8:34 AM

When my dd was in public school, the science teacher had to leave the room. Due to school shootings (we had one at the high school years ago), each classroom door must be locked during class. So the teacher left and locked the door behind him, locking the students in the room. It was like a boxing bell went off. A few guys jumped up and started fighting a couple of other guys. The room was destroyed during the fight and all the kids were stuck in the room.  It scared the crap out of my dd. There were constant fights in the bathrooms so she would hold it until she got home. A kid asked her on the bus to give him a blow job. Yeah I was very concerned and the principal was a joke. She was too busy trying to be a friend instead of an authority figure. Most of the schools here are decent but that particular school is BAD. I live in a great neighborhood but that school is located in the worst part of town. Not one middle school kid in my subdivision goes to that school. We put them in private school or ask the county for a school change.

by Gold Member on Feb. 13, 2013 at 9:16 AM

Yes all the time. More with my sons school than my dd's.  They are both high school freshman but in different schools.  both are very large schools with over 4000 students. My dd's school is mostly an arts school  the kids that applied there are just a different type of kid.  In order to get into the school you had to have no violece on your record.  good attendance and decent grades.  To get into one of the many art programs it was even stricter.  My sons school is a lil different.  For the most part the kids are all good kids  but you have say 10-15% of the kids that don't take school all that seriously.  Theres some gang activity as well.   They have double the amount of security than my dd's school has as well as metal detectors at the doors.  Those of you old enough to remember the show Welcome back kotter  you'll remember his school. 

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