Thank you all for your comments. My dd came home and said she had F quiz grade brought up so now she has an A in science (the total grade). I made her PROVE it by going on powerschool to actually show me. She was telling the truth. She couldn't bring the D up. The teacher told her it was because she has a B+ in that subject. Hope she isn't pulling my leg on that one. lol. SHE apologized to me about what she had said & said I was right. Wow...that was impressive. I gave her phone back to her but after I did I thought should I have so... fast because of the disrespect, etc. I always have a delema in how long to discipline as maybe she is saying 'I'm sorry' just to get back in my good graces. I'm thinking this because this is a pattern for her (the mouthiness). She never used to apologize, so this is new. I'm always trying to stay one step ahead of her, she's so crafty. lol Should I have done anything different?
My 14 yo dd gets A's & B's on papers/homework, etc but on some quizzes & test she is getting D's & F's. She refuses to study and alot of times forgets (she says) her books/homework at school. Even if a kid doesn't study you would think they would get better grades on test's & quizzes if their overall work is good wouldn't you? Or could it be test anxiety? We don't believe that is is test anxiety because it isn't on all tests/quizzes just a few. But it brings down her total grade even if it is a few. We have told her if she doesn't get the test grades up on the 2 pending now she will be going to after school help (it's a program after school) but she is refusing & saying she won't & we can't make her. Well, the school can't make her & we can't really either, it's voluntary but we can make other things go away... We have told her that but she just says 'try it'! How would you handle this?