I know there are some awesome guys out there, including the sons of some of my close friends. But my daughter, who's eighteen, has had the worse luck with boyfriends. She has been recently dating a guy who initially we all thought was great. He has a very good job while still going to school. He's mature, polite, comes from a nice family, and doesn't drink or party. He and my daughter had Valentine's Day plans today which she's cancelled. She told him she doesn't feel like she's the right girl for him and they should go their separate ways. Come to find out, even though they've been dating only a short time, he's telling her not to do certain things like dye the tips on her hair light pink for an upcoming concert she's attending. He also told her she better never get a visible tattoo and when she made a silly face at him when they were having coffee to never do it again. My daughter saw all these things as red flags and I agree with her. This is the second guy she's dated who's attempted to be controlling with her. Her friend told her that if she really likes him she would want to go along with his wishes. Umm, no. She shouldn't have to change who she is to please some guy. At least that's how I see it. My daughter told me, "Mom, I realize some people don't like tattoos, etc. but shouldn't it be what's on the inside that really matters"? It's surprising to me that this has been an issue, we're not living in the 50's and we live near a big city. Also, my daughter is a smart girl who's taking 5 college classes plus a chemistry lab, has very wholesome interests, and has a lot going for her. She's pretty artistic and will occasionally dye her hair some funky color and dress in a more edgy style, which apparently this guy wasn't aware of when they started seeing each other. The guy texted her that he wants to talk about it more but I think my daughter isn't going to go back out with him even if it means a boring Valentine's Day with her parents and little brother. I'll happily hang out with her tonight!