Venting a little...No bad language. **Edit in red**
OK, I am a mom with 8 kids. All but 3 are out on their own. The oldest living at home is 16. He is in the local high school, and every since he went back from Christmas break, he has got at least 12 detentions - I found out later that the school notes that I took in got lost some how and for every day he missed after the 5th tardy or a missed day, he get 3 detentions. I got copies of the doctor excuses and took them in, but they refuse to take them. Tuesday I went to Ohio to pick up my youngest daughter (it was only an 5 hour trip round trip. He got into trouble. It was his own fault, but never in a million years would I dreamed of getting into trouble myself. My son had a cigarette on his person. Wasn't out smoking it but, he got 3 days suspension, a ticket for $150, a court date, lock in a room (cell) for 8 hours a day for the 3 days suspension. I have to go to the high school for a behavior meeting. This is going to be very interesting because the same asst. principal that I went to talk to on Wednesday and he yelled at me and accused me of buying cigarettes for my son. WOW! 1. don't yell at me. My husband doesn't yell at me. 2. I thought that I was an adult, but I sure felt like I was in high school again. Where I used to live, yes, I knew the laws for underage smoking, but never dreamed this. I know that my son did wrong, he knows too. I just can't understand all this when I have seen and heard of more problems up at this high school and this doesn't happen. I watch a kid get the heck beat out of him, and the abuser was never punished. My son has class with him. ??? I just wondered if anyone has heard of this or knows what I should be doing.
**OK, I am really trying hard to understand things that are going on at the high school. Since I first posted this, the principal that first gave my son all the above, has given my son several more detentions. With this last time giving David 9 of them all at once. Here is the reason: Instead of saying "Hi Mr. West." he said "Hi West." Witnesses told me that Mr. West got in his face and yelled and screamed at him. ????? OK. So he called me at school, got me out of class started right off yelling at me. I blew a gasket. After yelling at me, I opened up and gave it to him with both barrels. I told him "You have to giver respect before you can get it." He said "Exactly. That is what I told David" I told him, "It wasn't David, I was talking about, it is you. You know what, I will be there in a few minutes, and we will talk about this." and I hung up. Went up to talk to him and he was nowhere in sight. When I asked where he was the secretary told me that he left and that he sent David back to class. When I asked where'd he go, she couldn't tell or wouldn't tell me. So she told me that I could pick up David so I did. When I rounded the corner, there he stood, and that man went the other way. OMG! What an ignorant man. I was so mad at him because he would not talk to me. David arrives, and I let him have it with both barrels because of the simple disrespect that he showed an adult - such as he was.
I know that what my son did was wrong, but did it really warrant nine detentions? One or two, yes, three yes, but nine? So I get the detention slip in the mail. All he said that David is getting nine detentions for disrespect of an adult. I took it to a teacher that is a friend of mine, she told me that I was fighting a losing battle, but she did tell me to go through the ranks and talk to the main principal and was advised that I wouldn't get anywhere and the to go to the superintendent of schools and again I wouldn't get nowhere and then she said that I needed to go to a lawyer because she believes this to harassment.
I am torn on what to do. My son has witnesses that seen Mr. West just yell and scream at him for just saying "Hi West" instead of "Hi Mr. West". I am not sure that it is worth it all to take him to court, but I am taking my son out of this school and putting him back into the on-line schools that he was in before. I have never seen such a mess in all of my life. He does great in the public school. His teachers all have nothing but good to say about him. And since he got back on his ADD meds., they say that he is doing even better than before. It is just this Mr. West.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Sorry so long. Just ranting.