My 15-yr-old son is very intelligent, good-looking, athletic, and has many friends at school. He plays high school baseball and also plays the saxophone in two different bands at school. He has also gone to school dances with a date, one who he invited, another where a girl invited him. But he does not date. He says he's not interested in dating because can't find a girl who can have an intelligent conversation with him, which is important to him.
My concern is this: he doesn't ever inititate any social get-togethers, although he will go over to one particular friend's house if he is invited over. He does not like anyone coming over to our home (except this one friend - and this rarely). He stays in his room most of the time, on his computer, where he researches his interests (science, engineering), even taking Physics and Computer Science classes online (for fun!)
He has no interest in parties or social gatherings where there are many people. He socializes at school (which he tells me) but has no interest in socializing outside of school. And he seems quite content with this arrangement.
He has no interest in a Facebook account (he thinks it's "stupid and a waste of time"), he rarely texts or uses his phone except when necessary. He has no interest in "small talk" with others. In fact, he thinks it's a waste of time. If the conversation is not of an interest to him, he doesn't participate.
He seems quite happy, not depressed at all. He is definitely a reserved kid, but is this normal? I have thought about pushing him a bit to engage more, but I know he would never go for it, and it would just end up going nowhere. Especially since he is only 2 years away from college, I'm nervous about sending him off into the world with these lack of social skills! I've tried to teach him certain social skills, but he just shrugs it off. Should I be concerned, and should I continue to push him a little more?