Due to poor grades, my 14 yo dd has been restricted from electronic devices. She had pulled three of the grades up, so this past weekend I let her use her phone. Monday morning, I took the phone back. Last night I go in her room and there is an iPod in her bed. I said what is this! Turns out she borrowed an old iPod from a friend to chat with her "boyfriend". Boyfriend lives an hour away and they never see each other unsupervised. Even then, they may see each other for only two or three hours a month supervised. So I take the iPod and I go to bed. Lying in bed, the iPod is chirping like mad. So I turn it on. Dd and boyfriend are on Facebook messaging each other! I'm confused because I have her phone, her iPad, her iPod, and the borrowed iPod. There is no way she has anything left to use! I was about to go in her room, when their conversation turns to sex. Mind officially blown!!!!! They are talking about trying it (I have to say I wanted to blow while at the same time I was thanking God that they had not had sex yet!) So I broke into the chat on her borrowed iPod and told her that the conversation was over and whatever device she was using was to be brought to me now. I told her bf that I will be talking to his parents today. When dd brought me the device, I was shocked further!!! It was my old smartphone that isn't activated but still has wifi capabilities. She is a little friggin Mcgyver! Dd and bf said they weren't going to have sex and it was just a game they were playing with each other. Some friggin game! As I read thru the old messages, turns out he has been trying to talk her into having sex for about a month. He has used every line in the book.
Today I am going thru her room and taking everything out. She won't have anything when I'm done. She is grounded longer now. For how long exactly I haven't decided. She will never see that boy again or any other boy for that matter. I am going to print the transcript of those messages and email it to his parents so they can decide what to do on their end. I have not raised my voice. I have not told her the punishment yet. I haven't addressed any of this with her yet. All I said was I am very disappointed in you and that was all. Any suggestions from other moms who have gone thru this? How do I handle this? She is a really good kid who has all of a sudden been lying to me, going around her restriction from electronic devices, and talking to a boy about sex. This is not my normal kid! I'm livid right now so I need advice before she gets home from school and I have to talk to her.