My daughter is 18 years old and a freshman at a university 2000 miles away from our home. She loves her school, is doing well academically, joined a sorority, and has made some friends. Ok, these are not problems!
My issue is that she is dating a boy here at home who is a JUNIOR in high school. They began dating the summer before she left for college (good timing, I know...). The age difference between them is only 9 months (his parents held him back a year) and he seems to be a very nice boy who really likes my daughter. She has been home a few times already and when she's home, she spends a great deal of time with him. In fact, she is usually the one driving to see him, or pick him up, as he has to share one car with 2 other siblings. But the whole situation is strange, even my 15-yr-old son is asking why she's doing this, he thinks it's weird! You would think the distance alone would kill the relationship, but it's still going strong...
My husband and I have no issues with the boy himself, our main issue is with the situation.
We both feel this is regressive, and in a way hindering her college experience and holding her back from being fully immersed in college life, and the possibility of being open to a more mature relationship (which she will not be, if she's still seeing this kid). I could really care less if she dates in college, but it's like she's going backwards, back to high school, when she should be going forward. When I expressed this to her, she assured me it was not true.
I feel this could be a mistake that she may look back on and regret (you don't get that first year or two of college back) and there's not a thing I can do about it since she won't listen to my reasoning... and she is 18 after all... Does anyone see it my way? Or am I overreacting?