My 14 yo dd got an F on a social studies test on Monday. She didn't study at all this weekend. That's 2 F's now in the past 3 days on a test. She gets F's then we take stuff away,make her do her homework, stay in her room then she does good, grades go up,we give her privileges back & then she slacks again. She just won't study & do her work ON HER OWN unless she is pushed. Anyone know how to deal with this type of kid and or situation?? When she builds up trust again, we give things & priveleges back & she does well for a bit. Before too long we GO AROUND THE MOUNTAIN AGAIN!! Or do we just contend with this is the way it/she is going to be & continue to do as we have done in consequensing like we have?? She will be in high school next year. I have a friend who told me they do testing in 7th grade & 8th grade doesn't mean anything and they have learned all they are to learn by 7th grade (meaning in middle school). I see other stuff they are learning that they haven't learned in the past (well, I think so) unless they have touched on it in previous grades. My dd even said her teachers say that 8th grade doesn't matter. My friend said she is right that teachers do say that. This friend doesn't push her 16 yo anymore she just doesn't care plus she's from a different state. I don't want to be that way.