How do you improve Communication with your teenage son?
How do you improve your communication with your teens? My sons 16 and is very active with friends,his girlfriend,but is it normal for teens not to talk but when they reach certain age? Most I get is yep,no,idk,maybe ..lol Im thinking this isnt conversation .,so how do you get your teens to talk ? what is your communication like with your teens? Is it normal for teens to not want to open up ? Thank you any input is welcomed!
You are living my life, my son only give short answers most of the time unless I keep asking questions to get more information. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I think this is more likely with boys than girls also. I agree with tyfry7496 that if it is an important subject I try to talk to him when we are in the car, that way he can't leave, but I'm doing most of the talking then and he is listening. However if my son is upset with me about something, social media kicks in and I get a long text about what I did wrong! Maybe try asking him questions thru texting instead of talking.
I find it pretty normal for teens not to open up. They are trying to get their independence from you and they do it in different ways. My son will talk my ear off about the latest gaget or science experiement they are doing worlds away, but ask how his day went and I get ok
My oldest son (13) used to tell me EVERYTHING about his day. Now when I pick him up, he will put his ear buds in, listen to music and doesn't say much. But I think he's trying to process his day, because eventually he talks. Also, I have found that my son will open up more when we are texting each other.
Oh thats funny you have a good point there lol they cant do much when there in the car . Thank you
Quoting tyfry7496:
Talk in the car. He can't leave while the car is moving. Talk about neutral topics or things that interest him. Ask his help with things, even if you can do them. Ask him to explain while he helps.
Yes I definitely relate..lol It always like im one talking unless he decided that I need to be corrected for something or he will open up to me if somethings bothering him but its same situation as you ,so I guess it must be normal thing with boys ....Lol
Quoting mt0130:You are living my life, my son only give short answers most of the time unless I keep asking questions to get more information. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I think this is more likely with boys than girls also. I agree with tyfry7496 that if it is an important subject I try to talk to him when we are in the car, that way he can't leave, but I'm doing most of the talking then and he is listening. However if my son is upset with me about something, social media kicks in and I get a long text about what I did wrong! Maybe try asking him questions thru texting instead of talking.
My sons the same way . Isnt that funny how boys are they will pour there hearts out to you if its something that interest them but then will shut down if its something that doesnt interest them ..lol
Quoting fantasticfour:I find it pretty normal for teens not to open up. They are trying to get their independence from you and they do it in different ways. My son will talk my ear off about the latest gaget or science experiement they are doing worlds away, but ask how his day went and I get ok
Texting seems to be the normal thing with teens now day. I agree my son will talk more sometimes if were texting but it also depends if hes out with friends then he doesnt want me bothering him. I have him on weekends & he lives with his dad thru the week so when hes with me he wants to hang out with friends & his girlfriend the whole time. I think Im just missing him since we dont see each other much but understand at same time he just wants to be independant . Thank you
Quoting mom3100:My oldest son (13) used to tell me EVERYTHING about his day. Now when I pick him up, he will put his ear buds in, listen to music and doesn't say much. But I think he's trying to process his day, because eventually he talks. Also, I have found that my son will open up more when we are texting each other.
Well, for starters we always sit down at a table for dinner. We talk and ask questions. Yes and no answers are not acceptable for the most part. But this is something we've been doing since day 1.
We also have a family night, do don't really "talk" pre se, but we spend the whole day with the kids doing whatever, sometimes there is chatter, sometimes there is just fun.. But again that is something we've done from the beginning.
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- bizebe
on Feb. 27, 2013 at 12:09 AM