Not a porblem with my teens, per se... but something one of them has gone through that just makes me so furious for him!!!
We have custody of a child who is not ours and not related in any way. We went to our final trial on Thursday where we reresented ourselves (pro se) and won everything we were asking . However, something REALLY upset me a lot and I am wanting to get input. Or maybe just to vent.
You see, we had to pove his mom unfit and meet the Bennett v. Jeffreys findings in order to keep him. Because of that I got to review every one of the CPS reports on his mom.
There were MANY. All of them were the same thing: Neglect, filth, leaving them alone, medical neglect... filth filth, filth. In a couple of them she didn't even know where her kids were staying (under the age of 10) because they'd left home. One of them she left them with a neighbor and just plain didn't return. Many for medical neglect and every one of the reports included the amazing filth, lack of food, heat, hot water, etc.
Here's the punch line: Every one of the MANY reports from 2 different states was an "indicated" report. EVERY one of them she was non-compliant. EVERY one of them they closed stating non-compliant and that there were founded reports of neglect-meaning they were REAL and they found the report to be true or worse. One of them they made initial contact with her, but then she was non compliant and unable to be contacted because she was working so they CLOSED THE CASE and let her keep the kids. In that one it cited that the youngest one had an infected and oozing cyst uner his chin just smaller than a golf ball. He was roughly 5 at the time. No medical care and she didn't comply with them requiring medical care for him-so they closed the case????
I can see closing the case repeatedly when they make the effort to at least make it look like they are complying and just how frustrating that could be, but the reports STATE that she was non-compliant, neglectful, ABANDONED THEM... AND THEY CLOSED THE CASES LEAVING THE KIDS THERE??? She flat out said at 11 they are old enough to be on their own-and evidently that's ok???
I am so shocked and horrified. I could see ONE case worker but this is MULTIPLE different case workers in 2 states and 6 different counties in those states. And I am talking serious neglect here. Not just no food in the cupboard, but no basic care at all and SERIOUS filth with feces, mold and infestations. Sick, bruised and abandoned children. One ended up in the child sex trade and the FBI was involved. Yes, THAT bad.
I guess now I understand how kids die in a crappy parent's care even after CPS has been involved.
And yet I have seen kids removed for next to nothing. Certainly nothing close to this kind of care.