Hey I just wanted to share what changes I have made in my kids allowance.
They are 12 and 13 and one has a problem with spending the other with not spending.
They were getting $7 a week and I would put in their bank account. Then I would often pay for school dances, lunches etc sometimes out of their bank but most often out of mine.
It often seemed I was doling out money. Everytime I had spare change I would dish it out. Don't get me wrong I was not spoiling them and I would say no often and then it was a fight, escpecially with my DD as she has some developmental and behaviour challenges where she likes conflict.
Well I sat them down a couple of weeks ago and told them I was raising their allowance but they had to pay for almost everything themselves. I got some tips from some parenting books/websites on how to do this.
I gave them a short money mangement class and they get $15 a week now. $3 in the bank and the other $12 in cash. They are not really happy about this but will adjust.
There have been some problems already and it is too early to tell if it will really work but so far I am enjoying not listening to "But I NEED $2 for school tomorrow" :)
The funny thing is that all of a sudden they no longer seem to NEED these things as much LOL