The hardest part for me about having a teen son is not knowing.
Not knowing if this is a normal teenage phase or something more serious.
Ds completly shuts us out. he claims he has a girlfriend yet i never see her and i'm not allowed to even know her name. Really son? i give my all taking care of you and now i'm just cut right out of his life. Like i don't even deserve to know anything about him anymore. Don't dare hug him or expect a hug from him. Don't dare spend time with him.This is just one thing(why is he so closed off to us?) in a myriad of things that i've been worried about for so long such as his grades and rude jokes. he acts like we as his parents don't deserve the time of day. He don't seem to know how to socialize with the adult world. Does fine with his friends but i remember shortly after having my third child, (ds was 15 and i was having another baby) the nurse asked him politely as ever " so how do you like your new brother?" and he just stares with this look on his face like he's mad at her and he don't answer peoples questions when asked. he just sits there quite with a mean look on his face. he wasn't looking this way because he was jealous about the little brother, he responds this way quite often with adults and its so embarassing. We've talked to him about it but i suspect us shining a light on that behavior makes him feel bad about himself (not the result I want) but yet he continues to act that way. I don't even think he realizes what his face looks like. i don't think the stare he has is meant as intentional. its just wierd and I don't know what to think about it. I suspect he's just highly uncomfortable and thats the reaction you get due to his discomfort in talking to adults he don't know. There so many things i question about ds but its too much to put in one post. Does any of this sound familiar to anyone with teen sons?