feeling betrayed by my son needing opinions or advise please!!!!
well as the years went on i supported my kids in everything they did and always Having them with me.
while Joseph was getting older he started getting it trouble with the kids he was hanging out with and his schooling was starting to suffer i had to pick him up From the P.D. once for fighing in the fifth grade it was so bad they had left him with sneaker shoe prints on his body .it hurt me so bad see this and knowing Everytime i would let my ex know never said anything or help them . so i started getting calls from his school. regarding his grades and his behavior. i had got referred by them to take my son to see if he had adhd. and it turned out he did . I got him in counceling and joseph had to take aderral. i got in sports soccer, football, wrestling. when entered the high school it looked like he was doing fine but then he was becoming defiant and then one day he didnt come home from school on time then i got a phone call from the cops his sophomore year Joseph got arrested for selling his adderall ...and was going to expelled From school . i then asked him why he did it and coyld even give me an answer. i had to go to court and i fought for him to get another chance is school. he end it up with probation til he turned 18 and they let him go back to school i was always behind him to do well i even got him involved with a few clubs in school too.
there was a club that called his attention with my help it was m.e.s.a (mathematics,engineering,science,academics) he became the president of the club . he was doing soo good in his sports and clubs until his second semester of school when he met this girl right before he had apply for scholarships and college. he was planning on going to uc santa cruz ca. this girl is younger than him and is very bad new she does drugs and drinks . well she has treated him so bad we tried to meet her and on the first time meeting her she wouldnt even speak to us and look like she just didnt like us. weeks before he left he started fighting with me because of that girl she was making him hostle. to the point we took the cell pbone from him because he wouldnt come home or he would be stuck in the room on his cell fighting with her. then one day i found the cell we took from him in his room .and i had seen what were texting each other. and it was all bout me .joseph saying i never feed him or i wouldnt let him eat or i wouldnt let him go any were and his girlfriend telling him leave and how much they both hated me. i always had foodin the house and have owned a house for the last 13 years and been there for him. then one day we got in argument over his cell because ii wouldnt give it back ..he wasnt paying for the cell he wasnt doing any chorse or working and there r rules in this house so he left and i couldlnt stop him cause he was 18. i was so hurt!!!!!
i didnt know were he went for the first 3 weeks . we even went to his friends house and i knew the knew were he was at but didnt want to tell me. then i heard he was living with his girlfriend and her family . and i had taught him better than that. well to cut this story short. he ended up going to his real father after him saying he would never have anything to with him cause he was never there for rememberedm or even remembered his birthday. and it hurts me so much because i did everything for him i never denied my son and my ex denied him . i gave him what he needed spent sleepless night caring for him when would was sick fought for him feed him clothed him put a real roof over his head did what i had to do to give him what he need it . and now wont speek to me . and now his father is trying to take all the credit for the achievments joseoh has done. and done my son isis letting it happen . now i here my ex bought him a car and a motor cycle and giving him all the money he wants plus he is not even going to school. Joseph to talk to my husband that i have now for the last 12 years and told him that his dad told him i never let his dad see him and that the only reason joseph has my last name is cause i didnt know who the father was....me and my husband r so hurt over this...my husband thew the ball with him got up early at 4 am to take him to weight lifting my husband would get out of work early just to make it to his games.... i dont know if i even want to talk to my son anymore. me ans my husband would give joseph our last dollar and it was never good enough. i just cant believe this has happened to us!!!!!! please give me ur opinions, advise,or comment please i really need feed back thank u!