VENTING - but suggestions appreciated.
So Mr. Suicidal, had a relatively good week. The therapist said I should start pushing him a little to get back on track wit hschool work yesterday. I asked for two subjects and he got that done. He even went to Boy Scouts, of his own accord, NO pushing at all and had a GREAT time.
Today?? FUKKKKKKK MEEEEEEEEEE....I asked the same thing....Two subjects....1 page of math (usually he does 2) and either Science or Health. He also does Japanese but that's his "fun" elective that he LOVES so that's not one I've required.
He had a FIT! TOTALY HISSY fit about the math. I told ALL the kids, no video games until your subjects are done. He sat down, did a little, then started trying to negotiate...It says the last four are optional - do I have to do them? Yes, I have always told you to at least TRY them, they are challenge problems. Usually he has NO problem with them! THen, it's can I do them tomorrow but play tonight? Umm..NO. I will HELP you do it tonight and get it over with. If you had done it and not tried to negitiate, you would have been done by now!
Then he gets mad and through gritted teath MUTTERING it stresses him out, it's too much, he CANT do it.
Again, I offer to help him (which he totally doesn't need) and that pisses him off MORE.
He storms off saying I just don't get it. So I gave him time to cool off- about 2 hours later, I go to his room and he takes a while getting to the door. Once he answers, he finally admits he was playing video games on his computer in his room.
Consequence- I removed the power cord from his computer and took his cell phone (also has video games on it)
So now he's been hiding in his room, he tied his blankets to the top rail of his loft bed like he was going to hang himself. Then he would come out and bring me things- like he walked out, didn't say anything, but made a scene of putting the cross he got from church on his Confirmation on a table in the living room where I was cleaning things up.. A lil while later I heard his door open, he put his bibles and a study guide out on the floor in the hall.
I went in and asked if he wanted to calland talk to his therapist. He said no, he hates him and he's not solving anything. He just does meditationand calms him down but isn't changing anything.
Again, left him alone. Now he's out here, still obviously pised, but eating dinner nad watching TV with the other two kids.
Jinx - Homeschooling, Scouting & Karate butt-kicking Mom to Star Scout Ian 1/98, Scout Sean 9/00, Junior GS Heidi 4/03. Wife to Joe & Alpha to German Shepherd Spazz.